Tiamat you should take some responsibility too-- Done playfully The only thing I have learned over the years is every woman is completely different and you have to be able to learn what makes them feel good-- Heck I met a woman once that stated she had never had an orgasm except with the aid of her vibrating egg. So we incorporated that in our play. Oh and tia-- Orgasm denial right before the peak can be AMAZING if you are in the mood for extended play-- its super frustrating if you want it right now but if you are comfortable you will get there eventually the stop start can be teasing