It matters, quite simply, because the enviroment we live in molds the person we are/ become. The question harbors nothing. It's but a question. The situation and prejudices of others harbors the bitterness, forgiveness, ect. Of course we play the cards we are dealt. If our father wass a child molester, we live with the preconcieved notions of others that we: have those tendancies, are a victim, or have a warped view of the world, family, and relationships. If our father was a great man of peace such as Gandhi, we are expexcted to live up to that as well. It is the expectations, fears, opinions, and prejudices that are bequeathed us by our ancestors that are in actuality the "sins of our fathers" that are passed on to us. Sometimes it takes help and support to play those cards dealt to us. That's why it matters whether we do or don't. It's seldom an option that we do not. It is not the sons and daughters of these kind of people that lay the blame. Nor do they point the finger. The blame or suspision is usualy leveled at them and the finger is pointed to them. I too, try not to play the blame game. And if the rest of the world would do the same as those of us who attempt this feat, it would be a better world. Unfortunately we are the minority in most cases. To ignore this is unwise and unrealistic. To say, "I do my best not to play the blame game" sounds well and good. But we cannot ignore the rest of society or the actions of others. And it is at times such as this that we must show a deep and honest compassion and understanding toward the sons and daughters who are in reality victims of the actions of those who came before them.