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Another example - I envy that my brother makes my parents happy. He has gotten married and recently had his first child. I know my parents are proud of my achievements and some of the things I have done with my life. However, I do not inspire the same joy in them that my brother does, though I am the one they (especially my mother) depend on for support.

Sure. Again, the issue rests with common views about what is more important & less important. It is common to regard accumulating possessions as more important than helping others. Thus, it is expected parents perceive getting married & having a family as more important then helping another. For example, if you told your parents you are going to ordain as a monk or nun in order to help people, they would probably faint.

Often in life, if you are a helping person rather than an acheiving person, you have do no something extremely helpful, like performing a miracle, to earn another's respect.

Work is worse. Being conscientious is often not appreciated. Commonly, only what you do for your boss is appreciated rather your work ethic. Generally, your boss appreciates you if you make them look good. Apart from that, they generally do not care. If you make them look bad, i.e., mention they did something incorrectly, they do not appreciate it.

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