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**DoctorQuquriramba** · 06-30-2012, 06:42 PM

Hi, Monkey!
Sometimes I feel like you but I don't think envy or jealousy would be the right terms to use, at least in my case. I try to go about my life doing as much good as I can (or at least, so little mischief as I can), and sometimes I have the feeling that people who are selfish, self-centered, double-faced or blasé about other people's feelings lead quite successful lives despite their ways. In my case it might be due to an overblown idea of justice, the fact that I naively think that just because you're good-natured you should lead a very fulfilled life and viceversa if your ethical system is low.

As to your brother, are you sure it's not a case of sibling rivalry? My elder brother has always been jealous of me and, believe me, I have NEVER done anything to make him feel like that. He thinks our parents and the rest of the world prefer me, he's jealous of any little success I could have but believe me, it's all in his mind. He has a difficult temper and can't relate easily with people, and is also unable to appreciate the little positive things in his life. He blames the rest of the world for his problems without realizing HE is a real poison to himself. But then, he thinks I am his biggest problem!

What I do when I feel resented or jealous or judgmental is to meditate, read cheerful books and focus more on developing myself rather than checking out to see if the grass is greener on my neighbour's garden. Then I choose to think that we all do the best we can with the knowledge we have. I'm rather happier to see things differently than they do, because deep down they're probably not as happy as they appear to us.

BE A LIGHT ONTO YOURSELF!

06-30-2012, 06:42 PM	#13
DoctorQuquriramba Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 480 Senior Member	Hi, Monkey! Sometimes I feel like you but I don't think envy or jealousy would be the right terms to use, at least in my case. I try to go about my life doing as much good as I can (or at least, so little mischief as I can), and sometimes I have the feeling that people who are selfish, self-centered, double-faced or blasé about other people's feelings lead quite successful lives despite their ways. In my case it might be due to an overblown idea of justice, the fact that I naively think that just because you're good-natured you should lead a very fulfilled life and viceversa if your ethical system is low. As to your brother, are you sure it's not a case of sibling rivalry? My elder brother has always been jealous of me and, believe me, I have NEVER done anything to make him feel like that. He thinks our parents and the rest of the world prefer me, he's jealous of any little success I could have but believe me, it's all in his mind. He has a difficult temper and can't relate easily with people, and is also unable to appreciate the little positive things in his life. He blames the rest of the world for his problems without realizing HE is a real poison to himself. But then, he thinks I am his biggest problem! What I do when I feel resented or jealous or judgmental is to meditate, read cheerful books and focus more on developing myself rather than checking out to see if the grass is greener on my neighbour's garden. Then I choose to think that we all do the best we can with the knowledge we have. I'm rather happier to see things differently than they do, because deep down they're probably not as happy as they appear to us. BE A LIGHT ONTO YOURSELF!
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