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Hi EG,

It's good to see you posting again.

Understanding attachment doesn't mean one becomes like a cold-hearted Zombie ! When one has attachment/clinging to other people, or to objects, it can result in negative emotions such as anger. If, for example I cling to expectations about how others should behave and they don't live up to those expectations, then I might become angry and disappointed. Similarly if I have an expensive car and it breaks down, then I may become very upset and wonder how I will manage without it.

Understanding and gradually letting go of clinging helps the mind to eventually become more peaceful and understanding.

Regarding neurotic thoughts and behaviours -- regular meditation may help. I recommend Ajahn Jayasaro's Buddhist meditation video series in the Meditation thread in our Study Links. Also you might like to try regular walking meditation too - and you can find out more about that in Element's walking meditation thread in our Buddhist Meditation sub-forum.

with kind wishes

Aloka