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**GAGNAPPEAPH** · 02-24-2012, 07:51 AM

I have read several times over about the aleviating of personal suffering through releasing emotion, This confuses me, what about emotions that make you happy, such as love and respect, I know both can lead down a darker path but if true love makes you happy and you are strong enoug to not be saddened do you still have to accept that you can not love another human, I have always desired a family and a loving wife, is this allowed in budhism because there is allot of emotion there, love and desire being the obvious ones.

I am, as some of you may have seen, very new to this, and before I commit myself i need to know its the right path for me otherwise inner peace will be unachievable.

For example, my job, i work onboard a train, every now and again I have to report someone for not having a ticket, causing them a day full of suffering perhaps longer, how can i get around this as not reporting this could loose me my job, I try my best to alleviate hte problem and only have them removed in the dead end scenario but in that case im still causing them to suffer, although, looking at that im not causing them to suffer am i, De personalising it, looking at the whole picture, the person in question has caused there own suffering when they made the concious decision to board without a ticket, so if I try to help and within my mind wish them the best in the future is that enough, by making the transisiI on from their mistake to their punishment as easy on them as possible, by being friendly to the ner do well, whilst security are angry with them am I full filling my vow as a budhist.

Back on to love, are budhists allowed to pro create, also for the, how can i put it, ummm bonding withing a relationship without the intent of pre creating, is that allowed.

sorry to say, I have so many questions, so many things about budhism that I dont full understand but I want to learn to understand as all I desire is inner peace and an end to my suffering and to the suffering of those whom I come into contact with.

Regards Justen Smith, Peace be with you.

02-24-2012, 07:51 AM	#1
GAGNAPPEAPH Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 350 Senior Member	Emotion. I have read several times over about the aleviating of personal suffering through releasing emotion, This confuses me, what about emotions that make you happy, such as love and respect, I know both can lead down a darker path but if true love makes you happy and you are strong enoug to not be saddened do you still have to accept that you can not love another human, I have always desired a family and a loving wife, is this allowed in budhism because there is allot of emotion there, love and desire being the obvious ones. I am, as some of you may have seen, very new to this, and before I commit myself i need to know its the right path for me otherwise inner peace will be unachievable. For example, my job, i work onboard a train, every now and again I have to report someone for not having a ticket, causing them a day full of suffering perhaps longer, how can i get around this as not reporting this could loose me my job, I try my best to alleviate hte problem and only have them removed in the dead end scenario but in that case im still causing them to suffer, although, looking at that im not causing them to suffer am i, De personalising it, looking at the whole picture, the person in question has caused there own suffering when they made the concious decision to board without a ticket, so if I try to help and within my mind wish them the best in the future is that enough, by making the transisiI on from their mistake to their punishment as easy on them as possible, by being friendly to the ner do well, whilst security are angry with them am I full filling my vow as a budhist. Back on to love, are budhists allowed to pro create, also for the, how can i put it, ummm bonding withing a relationship without the intent of pre creating, is that allowed. sorry to say, I have so many questions, so many things about budhism that I dont full understand but I want to learn to understand as all I desire is inner peace and an end to my suffering and to the suffering of those whom I come into contact with. Regards Justen Smith, Peace be with you.
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