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I have read several times over about the aleviating of personal suffering through releasing emotion, This confuses me, what about emotions that make you happy, such as love and respect, I know both can lead down a darker path but if true love makes you happy and you are strong enoug to not be saddened do you still have to accept that you can not love another human, I have always desired a family and a loving wife, is this allowed in budhism because there is allot of emotion there, love and desire being the obvious ones. See This & that

For example, my job, i work onboard a train, every now and again I have to report someone for not having a ticket, causing them a day full of suffering perhaps longer, how can i get around this as not reporting this could loose me my job, I try my best to alleviate hte problem and only have them removed in the dead end scenario but in that case im still causing them to suffer, although, looking at that im not causing them to suffer am i, De personalising it, looking at the whole picture, the person in question has caused there own suffering when they made the concious decision to board without a ticket, so if I try to help and within my mind wish them the best in the future is that enough, by making the transisiI on from their mistake to their punishment as easy on them as possible, by being friendly to the ner do well, whilst security are angry with them am I full filling my vow as a budhist. From Tsai Chih Chung's 'The Book of Zen: Freedom of the Mind' (Asiapac Comic)
Coming to Terms with Oneself (Pages 38-9)

There was an army physician who followed the troops as they went into battle. He tended to wounded soldiers in the battlefield.

Whenever his patients had recovered from their injuries, they were once again sent to continue fighting. As a result, they were wounded once again or killed.

After seeing this scenario again and again, he eventually suffered a mental breakdown. 'If he is fated to die, why should I save him?
If my medical knowledge has any meaning, why must he go into battle and lose his life?'

He did not understand whether there was any meaning in his being an army physician and he was so troubled that he could not continue healing others.

As a result, he went up a mountain to seek out a Zen Master. After being with a Zen Master for a few months, finally he understood his problem completely.

He descended the mountain to continue practising as a physician. He said, 'It is because I am a physician!'.

Commentary:
Not to identify oneself with something or to associate things with 'me' and to see the idea that there is a 'me' which is distinct from things is a delusion - that is true wisdom See also Liberating Emotions

Back on to love, are budhists allowed to pro create, also for the, how can i put it, ummm bonding withing a relationship without the intent of pre creating, is that allowed. See 1 2 3: (Look for 'Right Action (samma kammanta): (3) Abstaining from sexual misconduct (kamesu miccha-cara veramani)' 4 5 6 7

General links on Buddhism: 1 2 3 4 5 6