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**9mm_fan** · 02-24-2012, 03:44 PM

I have read several times over about the aleviating of personal suffering through releasing emotion, This confuses me, what about emotions that make you happy, such as love and respect, I know both can lead down a darker path but if true love makes you happy and you are strong enoug to not be saddened do you still have to accept that you can not love another human, I have always desired a family and a loving wife, is this allowed in budhism because there is allot of emotion there, love and desire being the obvious ones.

Hi Justen,

Learning to recognise our emotions and understanding why we have them doesn't mean that we don't love or respect other human beings.

The Buddha didn't discourage lay people to marry and he gave advice for harmonious relationships between couples.

i work onboard a train, every now and again I have to report someone for not having a ticket, causing them a day full of suffering perhaps longer, how can i get around this as not reporting this could loose me my job, I try my best to alleviate hte problem and only have them removed in the dead end scenario but in that case im still causing them to suffer, although, looking at that im not causing them to suffer am i, De personalising it, looking at the whole picture, the person in question has caused there own suffering when they made the concious decision to board without a ticket, so if I try to help and within my mind wish them the best in the future is that enough, by making the transisiI on from their mistake to their punishment as easy on them as possible, by being friendly to the ner do well, whilst security are angry with them am I full filling my vow as a budhist. If people get on a train without a ticket they are knowingly trying to cheat the system, or else they are forgetful. Either way, just be kind and do your job - and yes, mentally have goodwill towards everyone.

Back on to love, are budhists allowed to pro create, also for the, how can i put it, ummm bonding withing a relationship without the intent of pre creating, is that allowed.
Lay people are free to have families,Buddhist monks and nuns remain celibate.

There are no rules about having to have children within a loving relationship, its up to the couple to decide.

with kind wishes

Aloka

02-24-2012, 03:44 PM	#4
9mm_fan Join Date May 2007 Age 53 Posts 5,191 Senior Member	I have read several times over about the aleviating of personal suffering through releasing emotion, This confuses me, what about emotions that make you happy, such as love and respect, I know both can lead down a darker path but if true love makes you happy and you are strong enoug to not be saddened do you still have to accept that you can not love another human, I have always desired a family and a loving wife, is this allowed in budhism because there is allot of emotion there, love and desire being the obvious ones. Hi Justen, Learning to recognise our emotions and understanding why we have them doesn't mean that we don't love or respect other human beings. The Buddha didn't discourage lay people to marry and he gave advice for harmonious relationships between couples. i work onboard a train, every now and again I have to report someone for not having a ticket, causing them a day full of suffering perhaps longer, how can i get around this as not reporting this could loose me my job, I try my best to alleviate hte problem and only have them removed in the dead end scenario but in that case im still causing them to suffer, although, looking at that im not causing them to suffer am i, De personalising it, looking at the whole picture, the person in question has caused there own suffering when they made the concious decision to board without a ticket, so if I try to help and within my mind wish them the best in the future is that enough, by making the transisiI on from their mistake to their punishment as easy on them as possible, by being friendly to the ner do well, whilst security are angry with them am I full filling my vow as a budhist. If people get on a train without a ticket they are knowingly trying to cheat the system, or else they are forgetful. Either way, just be kind and do your job - and yes, mentally have goodwill towards everyone. Back on to love, are budhists allowed to pro create, also for the, how can i put it, ummm bonding withing a relationship without the intent of pre creating, is that allowed. Lay people are free to have families,Buddhist monks and nuns remain celibate. There are no rules about having to have children within a loving relationship, its up to the couple to decide. with kind wishes Aloka
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