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....so would making the feelings no longer personal, taking out the feeling or being responsible for the situation be the goal of the truth to lead to number three Cessation

hi again Justen,

In re-reading this question, i can offer two answers:

(1) Yes. In relation to past events, taking out the feeling of being responsible will lead to Cessation of suffering. Buddha taught we are not personally responsible for suffering. Buddha taught the thing that is responsible for suffering is ignorance or not-knowing. If we realise not-knowing (avicca) is responsible for suffering, we can forgive & learn more easily

(2) However, when we develop the 8 Fold Path, it is training to try to act more skilfully, with more wisdom, therefore training in being more responsible. But, yes, until we are fully enlightened, we can never be perfect. Ignorance still remains (so we can continue to blame 'ignornance' rather than 'ourself' when situations don't work out)

Kind regards