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We cannot detach things by ‘thinking’. Thinking that we will detach this thing, or that thing would not work. It is just thinking, not the real detachment. If we want to eat a delicious food, but we do not have sufficient money, so we decide not to buy it, this does not mean that we detach it. We still need and want to eat it and if we have sufficient money, we will buy and eat it. So, thinking is not the real detachment. What you are doing now is ‘thinking’ to detach things.

The detachment will come from a wisdom which we see the true status or conditions of those things that they are impermanent, suffering and not-self. So, we detach them by the wisdom which came from practicing, not thinking.

For example, if you hold a precious diamond in your hand, and you think (or I tell you to think) that it is just a useless and priceless stone and you should throw it away, would you release it from your hand? No, right? Because your mind fully knows that it is a precious diamond which is valuable to you and you should keep it for your benefits.

By another way, you do not think, but you test and see the real thing. You touch, see, smell and test the diamond in your hand and later you find out and truly accept that your mind is wrong. In fact, it is not a valuable jewel, but it is just a smelly and dirty shit. Will you still keep it in your hand or put it down? You will put it down unconditionally and automatically, right? This is because you have wisdom to see the truth. If you do not have your wisdom to see the truth by yourself, but I tell you or you try to think that it is shit, your mind will not be able to put it down.

So, the way to detach things is ‘not by thinking’, but to have ‘wisdom’ to see/know the truth of the things. Right now, we cannot attach the things because we do not have sufficient wisdom to detach them. We still feel and understand that they are precious and valuable. To way to have wisdom is to practice following the ways taught by the Buddha.