[unapelosina]

Dawn, I can relate to what you are saying and going through. May you have health, happiness and harmony as you go through your separation. That is where the teachings on non-attachment and impermanence will help greatly.

While my interests/beliefs have changed over the years we never really had a lot in common come to think of it. Before we met I always was, and still am, a musician and martial artist in my spare time. Both of which she's never had an interest. We actually were friends before lovers/partners. She and her husband, at the time, lived in next door condo to me and my roommate. When they split up (nothing to do with me) we became friends and started hanging out together, and eventually we started dating. We also had common friends as neighbors that we hung out.

Playing in a band for a few years obviously kept me away from home on the weekend evenings and going to martial arts classes took my time away from her/home a couple days a week - all tolerated and accepted with only minor complaints from time to time. Even though I’ve substituted a night of martial arts for going to the Buddhist center once a week that seems to be the straw off the camel's back. So it must boil down to some sort of fear over Buddhism.

We have been through thick and thin over the years so I can’t imagine not being together (although I recognize that as a form of attachement). I am hoping this will blow over eventual and that she will accept me as I am (with change).


Cal