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**scoussysows** · 08-20-2011, 07:38 PM

Welcome to the group, bobo !

Its important to understand that we don't own other people in any way and that possessiveness comes from clinging/attachment to others. However if we become too attached then we begin to suffer. Additionally, in extreme situations, anger and resentment can arise in a relationship if it doesn't fit in with our previous expectations.

Extending loving kindness outwards to include all sentient beings as well as your girlfriend and yourself might be helpful, as in Metta practice.

There are some resources and instructions for that here:

http://www.buddhanet.net/metta.htm

I hope that helps a little.

With kind wishes to you,

Aloka-D

08-20-2011, 07:38 PM	#3
scoussysows Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 441 Senior Member	Welcome to the group, bobo ! Its important to understand that we don't own other people in any way and that possessiveness comes from clinging/attachment to others. However if we become too attached then we begin to suffer. Additionally, in extreme situations, anger and resentment can arise in a relationship if it doesn't fit in with our previous expectations. Extending loving kindness outwards to include all sentient beings as well as your girlfriend and yourself might be helpful, as in Metta practice. There are some resources and instructions for that here: http://www.buddhanet.net/metta.htm I hope that helps a little. With kind wishes to you, Aloka-D
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