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....focus is on building this feeling into a mental habit that will last and become more mindful and less reactive (and I must stop judging people, what a silly habit that can be).

welcome Karma

as you have probably inferred, it is (also) important to stop judging ourself, using worldly frames of reference

and, instead, to look upon ourself from the viewpoint of Dharma, i.e., lovingly and respectfully rather than judgmentally

the Buddha taught "oneself is the protector of oneself"

the Buddha also taught good friends are also part of the path; understanding that those who take refuge in the Dharma also offer us lovingness and respect

peace to you, also

with metta

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