I'm not sure the two are so far apart. "Interbeing" isn't just a kumbayah moment -- it involves recognition of anicca, anatta and dukkha. People always remember that Thich Nhat Hanh talks about clouds, rain, flowers and children, but they tend to forget that he applies the same principle to things like war, poverty, abuse and suffering. When he presents the "positive" side of interbeing, it's as upaya.