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**engideNedmupe** · 12-30-2010, 10:27 PM

The sorts of illicit/improper sex acts that are near-universal include rape, adultery and the like.

... or that kind of sex that can hurt the feelings of the other; the kind of sex that is out of love and commitment, that uses the other just for lust and personal pleasure. At the long run, the use of another person for personal lust and pleasure, as an instrument or way of masturbation (personal pleasure), will harm deeply the feeling of the one who is being used and the one that uses. This leads to hellish mental states governed by lustfull feelings and painfull attachments that are the eternal source of Dhukka.

As a lay practitioner and being into a love relationship I found sex as a way to give and receive love; being carefull about each other feelings. This kind of sex goes beyond lust and pleasure and I think do not necessarily leads to attachment.

As meditative practice evolves sex takes its right and propper place. It changes its quality from just the search of pleasure and lust into another way to love. As the practice of Dhamma continues we will find that also there are other deeper ways to give love giving sex a secondary place understanding other ways of giving love and having commitment.

They distract one from one's pursuit of the highest attainment.

True. I think that it is important that, if we are in a love commitment, to practice the Dhamma and meditation together so to realize the need of this state of attainment and understand the nature of this distraction.

12-30-2010, 10:27 PM	#7
engideNedmupe Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 471 Senior Member	The sorts of illicit/improper sex acts that are near-universal include rape, adultery and the like. ... or that kind of sex that can hurt the feelings of the other; the kind of sex that is out of love and commitment, that uses the other just for lust and personal pleasure. At the long run, the use of another person for personal lust and pleasure, as an instrument or way of masturbation (personal pleasure), will harm deeply the feeling of the one who is being used and the one that uses. This leads to hellish mental states governed by lustfull feelings and painfull attachments that are the eternal source of Dhukka. As a lay practitioner and being into a love relationship I found sex as a way to give and receive love; being carefull about each other feelings. This kind of sex goes beyond lust and pleasure and I think do not necessarily leads to attachment. As meditative practice evolves sex takes its right and propper place. It changes its quality from just the search of pleasure and lust into another way to love. As the practice of Dhamma continues we will find that also there are other deeper ways to give love giving sex a secondary place understanding other ways of giving love and having commitment. They distract one from one's pursuit of the highest attainment. True. I think that it is important that, if we are in a love commitment, to practice the Dhamma and meditation together so to realize the need of this state of attainment and understand the nature of this distraction.
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