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**bunkalapa** · 07-25-2010, 09:17 AM

I am not sure of wanting to be with this teacher again.

I take responsibility for my current situation...I am aware the teacher gives the lesson the student needs at the time.

This teacher is fierce...mainly with the women yogis....and there is no opportunity to discuss my feelings with him.

You asked for feedback from a female perspective, so that's the main thing I can offer.

It sort of seems like this particular teacher has it in his head that women are wasting their time or his time, or whatever. It seems from your description like he is extremely negative about the work women do. If this impression is anywhere near the mark, I would say that you and he are probably not making the most of the situation by having him try and help you with anything. I'd say he's the one who needs help. If you feel like being his lesson in gender stuff, y'know, that's cool. But I doubt that you went to this guy to give him a valuable life lesson.

I'd say work on your own stuff, with somebody who can see you honestly and fairly enough to guide you, or alone. Doesn't the Dhammapada say that people should travel only with their equals or betters, and if not to travel alone? There's no companionship with a fool, and somebody who can't be fair with women shouldn't be left in a position to hinder your progress and personal work.

07-25-2010, 09:17 AM	#9
bunkalapa Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 496 Senior Member	I am not sure of wanting to be with this teacher again. I take responsibility for my current situation...I am aware the teacher gives the lesson the student needs at the time. This teacher is fierce...mainly with the women yogis....and there is no opportunity to discuss my feelings with him. You asked for feedback from a female perspective, so that's the main thing I can offer. It sort of seems like this particular teacher has it in his head that women are wasting their time or his time, or whatever. It seems from your description like he is extremely negative about the work women do. If this impression is anywhere near the mark, I would say that you and he are probably not making the most of the situation by having him try and help you with anything. I'd say he's the one who needs help. If you feel like being his lesson in gender stuff, y'know, that's cool. But I doubt that you went to this guy to give him a valuable life lesson. I'd say work on your own stuff, with somebody who can see you honestly and fairly enough to guide you, or alone. Doesn't the Dhammapada say that people should travel only with their equals or betters, and if not to travel alone? There's no companionship with a fool, and somebody who can't be fair with women shouldn't be left in a position to hinder your progress and personal work.
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