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**HassFks** · 07-14-2010, 05:46 PM

Ummm.... don't know about all this higher caste stuff. But the main reason why its okay for men to marry outside over the women is because the family name is passed thru the father. For example I can marry a white/asian/etc and my offspring will still be 100% Igbo; a female does it and the kids take on their father's name (not seen as fully Igbo).

This is 100% the case with Somalis too. Patriarchal societies are almost all like this.

Reminds me of the time, this young guy accompanied me and a bunch of Somali guys to a coffee shop frequented by alot of old Somali men, pinguin's age, ie pensioners and what not, who loiter in the coffee shop talking about politics and reminiscing about back home.

All of a sudden we walk in, 4 or 5 guys in our early 20s, one guy distinctly not Somali looking. They ask our buddy where he's from. He says, "I'm half Jamaican half Somali". The old men get all interested, and say... "Who is Somali, your father or your mother?" the guy says "my mom"...almost immediately, they all say, "Bah, you're no Somali" and they dismiss him, like the fact that he spoke some Somali didnt even matter anymore, lol. I felt really bad for my half Jamaican friend, because I could tell that since he was raised by his Somali mom, he felt more Somali than Jamaican...yet not accepted by anyone.

07-14-2010, 05:46 PM	#8
HassFks Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 320 Senior Member	Ummm.... don't know about all this higher caste stuff. But the main reason why its okay for men to marry outside over the women is because the family name is passed thru the father. For example I can marry a white/asian/etc and my offspring will still be 100% Igbo; a female does it and the kids take on their father's name (not seen as fully Igbo). This is 100% the case with Somalis too. Patriarchal societies are almost all like this. Reminds me of the time, this young guy accompanied me and a bunch of Somali guys to a coffee shop frequented by alot of old Somali men, pinguin's age, ie pensioners and what not, who loiter in the coffee shop talking about politics and reminiscing about back home. All of a sudden we walk in, 4 or 5 guys in our early 20s, one guy distinctly not Somali looking. They ask our buddy where he's from. He says, "I'm half Jamaican half Somali". The old men get all interested, and say... "Who is Somali, your father or your mother?" the guy says "my mom"...almost immediately, they all say, "Bah, you're no Somali" and they dismiss him, like the fact that he spoke some Somali didnt even matter anymore, lol. I felt really bad for my half Jamaican friend, because I could tell that since he was raised by his Somali mom, he felt more Somali than Jamaican...yet not accepted by anyone.
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