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Assalamu Alaikum,

You have to be very careful sister. Your son is already showing the wrong signs. You have to correct this right now or it will be too late. The seed of atheism has already been planted into his heart and it will be difficult to remove it if you leave it.

Science is the not the problem, it is how it is taught. Here in the West, if a child does not have deen taught properly, not just the praying but also the spiritual side, then the child will go towards atheism. This is the truth no matter how much we deny it. The youth either don't discuss with the parents because they think that their parents are jahil, or because their mother will cry and the father will fight. But in their hearts, they are no longer Muslim.

Maulana Yusuf Motala of UK had mentiones in one of the bayans, that the son of an alim became atheist (started believing humans came from monkeys), and another girl after studying philosophy in university told her parents that "prove to me that I am your daughter. You guys just picked me up from somewhere. I'm not your daughter." And there are so many more cases.

It will one of the best decisions of your life if you send your son to madrasa, but you have to choose a good one. There are two good ones in Canada. Don't let anyone make you think that a madrasa graduate is living in the dark ages and is not learning anymore, or that madrasa graduates don't make any money. these are not true. There are so many college and university graduates that are jahil, and don't study at all. they only want the degree to get a job and are still jobless.

I personally know a Muslim Neuropsychologist who can't read Quran properly, and a Psychiatrist who doesn't care if his daughter marries a muslim or not. these are normal. The other muslim I meet on a daily basis don't care if their children become muslim or not, or if they pray or not. All they is that they get degrees and have fame.

And I personally know 2 muftis who make multi millions per year through their business, and another who makes half a million pound a year, alhamdullillah. In the beginning it is tough when starting their business, but if they have your support then things becomes much easier.

And then there are also mureeds of Shaykh Zulfiqar who studied deen and then went on to university and studied medicine. And now they are doing work for deen and dunya, alhamdulillah.

The priority right now is deen. Whichever path you chose, make sure it is for your child's akhirah. If our children forsake Islam, then on the day of judgment, they will be the first ones to push us into Jahannam for not teaching them Islam.

And last point sister, it is very important that you sit with your children every day (without exception), and read for 10-15 minutes from an Islamic book. I cannot emphasize this. This has changed lives. Take Fazail Amal (one of the best books), or Riyad us Saliheen or other beneficial books.


And I kindly request all those members who do not live in the West, to not post their opinions. It is extremely different here that it is on the other side of the world. Only those who live here and grew up here going through the system know the situation.
And may Allah keep us all steadfast on His deen. Ameen