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**streMunford** · 08-03-2012, 07:26 AM

The older generations are stuck in their ways...too old to change...their Islam is based on their culture...all you can do is tolerate them and let them have their say, but politely do what you think is right. It is a shame because the older generations should be wise and they should be able to guide the young...I have found them to be mostly lacking in wisdom.

We must always respect our elders for showing us any amount of Islam, and pray that Allah rewards them for it infinitely. Having said that, the clash that occurs between children and parents when parents equate culture with Islam often proves to be extremely damaging to everyone. Muslim children often become disinterested in increasing their practice of Islam or stop practicing it altogether, unfortunately. I have seen the same thing happen to reverts/converts when they enter a Muslim community with a thick, cultural atmosphere rather than a purely Islamic one.

Slightly off topic. The other side of the coin is the prospective husband had the model looks, very handsome, tall, big house, nice car, high salary in a good job, good sense of humour, chatty, confident, extrovert but his Deen is weak, isn't practising, knowledge is limited, etc. But we'll marry him to our daughter anyhow.

Yes, I see this occur often as well. Currently, I know a few young male Muslims who are descended from a Muslim-majority country but were born and raised in the USA. They are very well-liked within the community and Masha'Allah, I've seen nothing but good practice of Islam from them and a constant striving to improve; many times, immediately upon being informed that something is un-Islamic that they were not aware of, I've seen them immediately abandon the practice. Yet, nobody within the community considers these three young men for their daughters because they "don't know anything about the customs and cultures of their parents, they have no identity outside of being Muslim."

The current state of affairs among many Muslims is extremely sad, and I feel more attention needs to be brought to the issue of Islam vs. culture.

08-03-2012, 07:26 AM	#4
streMunford Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 479 Senior Member	The older generations are stuck in their ways...too old to change...their Islam is based on their culture...all you can do is tolerate them and let them have their say, but politely do what you think is right. It is a shame because the older generations should be wise and they should be able to guide the young...I have found them to be mostly lacking in wisdom. We must always respect our elders for showing us any amount of Islam, and pray that Allah rewards them for it infinitely. Having said that, the clash that occurs between children and parents when parents equate culture with Islam often proves to be extremely damaging to everyone. Muslim children often become disinterested in increasing their practice of Islam or stop practicing it altogether, unfortunately. I have seen the same thing happen to reverts/converts when they enter a Muslim community with a thick, cultural atmosphere rather than a purely Islamic one. Slightly off topic. The other side of the coin is the prospective husband had the model looks, very handsome, tall, big house, nice car, high salary in a good job, good sense of humour, chatty, confident, extrovert but his Deen is weak, isn't practising, knowledge is limited, etc. But we'll marry him to our daughter anyhow. Yes, I see this occur often as well. Currently, I know a few young male Muslims who are descended from a Muslim-majority country but were born and raised in the USA. They are very well-liked within the community and Masha'Allah, I've seen nothing but good practice of Islam from them and a constant striving to improve; many times, immediately upon being informed that something is un-Islamic that they were not aware of, I've seen them immediately abandon the practice. Yet, nobody within the community considers these three young men for their daughters because they "don't know anything about the customs and cultures of their parents, they have no identity outside of being Muslim." The current state of affairs among many Muslims is extremely sad, and I feel more attention needs to be brought to the issue of Islam vs. culture.
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