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**JesikaFlpk** · 08-03-2012, 08:56 AM

I think some of the older generation when you speak to them about things such as marrying out of race etc i know deep down they know there shouldn't be an obligation on people to marry within the same race.....but then they just become stubborn because they think that if i permit this how will the rest of the community look upon me..it becomes about keeping a good reputation within the community than doing what is correct islamically

Of course this is the case and it is a serious problem. I once knew an older member of our community who had immigrated from a Muslim-majority country who, like the young Muslim men I mentioned in my previous post, was very well-respected within the community and a good Muslim as far as anyone could tell. However, almost every time his name was mentioned when he was not present, someone would inevitably say, "Did you know he married an American woman?" Female members of my family knew his wife and always said that she was among the most pious Muslim women they had ever known and this man was always extremely pleased with her as a wife. Witnessing this was extremely disheartening.

We need to sincerely ask ourselves which reputation we are more concerned with maintaining–our reputation with the people of his earthly life or our reputation with Allah, Who determines our fate in the hereafter? What would be better for our descendents, for the future of our Ummah–that they are raised with strong cultural values or with strong Islamic values?

08-03-2012, 08:56 AM	#6
JesikaFlpk Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 468 Senior Member	I think some of the older generation when you speak to them about things such as marrying out of race etc i know deep down they know there shouldn't be an obligation on people to marry within the same race.....but then they just become stubborn because they think that if i permit this how will the rest of the community look upon me..it becomes about keeping a good reputation within the community than doing what is correct islamically Of course this is the case and it is a serious problem. I once knew an older member of our community who had immigrated from a Muslim-majority country who, like the young Muslim men I mentioned in my previous post, was very well-respected within the community and a good Muslim as far as anyone could tell. However, almost every time his name was mentioned when he was not present, someone would inevitably say, "Did you know he married an American woman?" Female members of my family knew his wife and always said that she was among the most pious Muslim women they had ever known and this man was always extremely pleased with her as a wife. Witnessing this was extremely disheartening. We need to sincerely ask ourselves which reputation we are more concerned with maintaining–our reputation with the people of his earthly life or our reputation with Allah, Who determines our fate in the hereafter? What would be better for our descendents, for the future of our Ummah–that they are raised with strong cultural values or with strong Islamic values?
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