[MrGunjMan_]

Something I have been thinking about lately, especially seeing the anger, arguing and rigid behaviour in threads on this forum...please brothers and sisters, stay away from arguing and take care of your fellow brothers and sisters soul. Islam will endure, but not every Muslim will die a Muslim, so take care of them.

Here are Abdullah bin Hamid Ali's words on this topic. For those who want to read more on this can add him on Facebook.

There was a time when it was unheard of for a Muslim to leave Islam for any reason. I remember those days like they were yesterday. This is when things were a whole lot simpler, when people focused on the basics of human necessity and brotherhood. Over the past few years, I, personally, know of three cases of people leaving Islam. One became a Buddhist. Another became an Atheist. And the third was a good friend of mine who accepted Islam almost 2 decades ago who refuses to answer my phone calls to help me understand what happened with him. But when I reflect on all three of these people, there is one consistent thread. Each of them was extreme in their understanding in that they felt it necessary to be affiliated with some "elite" group of Muslims, and held tenaciously to the group's dogma. They loved to argue about religion more than using it to repair broken souls even though they claimed to be giving people pure water to drink. Instead of blaming Islam for not being able to find the nourishment they felt they couldn't get, they should blame their own temperaments. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said, "People are misled after God has guided them as a consequence of their obsession with disputation."

ما ضل قوم بعد أن هداهم الله إلا أوتوا الجدل In that same thread...on one sister's leaving Islam...

From her vantage point, there are not a whole lot of people nor are there a sufficient number of mosques there with people whose company would provide people like her with the kind of spiritual support she needed/needs. She would only find herself in the presence of a lot of people who consider deen to be all about religious debate and hairsplitting, a focus on superficiality, and judgmental behavior. I'm not saying I support her decision. I'm just saying that I can understand it especially since she had enough negative experiences with being judged growing up even when she trying to learn about Islam. In particular case, she and my other sister were barred from coming to one family's home, because they didn't wear the hijab.