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Old 02-27-2012, 02:08 AM   #17
remstaling

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Hello Brothers and Sisters

I am posting on this forum in the hope of getting some peace of mind and clarification.

I work with a Muslim (male) and we have to talk together about work related matters. We work together well however I notice that when we are talking face to face, he breaks eye contact and stares at my hair or over my shoulder at the wall (whilst still talking to me). This makes me very feel awkward. At first I thought there was something wrong with my head or that he had a problem with his eyes! Now when we talk I feel I cannot look at him directly in the eye for very long without feeling that I am making him uncomfortable and then I feel awkward again and I break eye contact first because if I don’t then I feel I am doing something wrong and I don't like that feeling at all.

Is this what is meant by lowering your gaze? I need to understand what is happening here as I am not a Muslim and I have great respect for this person.
Muslim men and Women are commanded by Allah (God) to lower their gazes. It is a sign of modesty, and your colleague may be doing it out of respect for you.

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze” (Qur'an 24:30)
"And tell the believing women to lower their gaze" (Qur'an 24:31)
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