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**tomspoumn** · 08-28-2010, 01:14 PM

What about the convert sisters? Is it equally difficult for a convert brother to marry a convert sister as it is to marry a born-Muslim Arab or Asian sister?

I always thought that marrying a convert sister saves a convert brother a lot of hassle and simplifies many things -- your thoughts?

Oh no - its much easier to marry a convert sister - thats what I did

It is easier because the two have alot in common, and culturaly they are on the same page.

...but I have not met many sisters who converted all on their own.

My wife converted and began to learn Islam from salafis. She than asked another sister about sufism and what it was. the salafi sister told her the usual takfiri noise, but she wanted to hear about it from a practitioner of tassawuf. In our city there is only a handful of us ahli sunnah types around, so she asked for some litterature from me. I gave it to her a sent her on her way. About 6 months later she contacted meagain and asked if any sufi bros were looking to get married. I told id look around (I already had a person in mind) and I told her to get a wali. She got a salafi wali and I immediatly called him and told him I was interested - he adviced her to "only marry sunnis", but fortunately she did not listen to him and accepted my proposal - her mahr was a lofty $100, a ring, and a decent used car. I had been single for so long specificly because the arabs said I ws either not Muslim, or their daughters wanted 20 thounsand or 30 thousand - I got some proposals from the SE asains, but I was not interested.

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tomspoumn Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 399 Senior Member	What about the convert sisters? Is it equally difficult for a convert brother to marry a convert sister as it is to marry a born-Muslim Arab or Asian sister? I always thought that marrying a convert sister saves a convert brother a lot of hassle and simplifies many things -- your thoughts? Oh no - its much easier to marry a convert sister - thats what I did It is easier because the two have alot in common, and culturaly they are on the same page. ...but I have not met many sisters who converted all on their own. My wife converted and began to learn Islam from salafis. She than asked another sister about sufism and what it was. the salafi sister told her the usual takfiri noise, but she wanted to hear about it from a practitioner of tassawuf. In our city there is only a handful of us ahli sunnah types around, so she asked for some litterature from me. I gave it to her a sent her on her way. About 6 months later she contacted meagain and asked if any sufi bros were looking to get married. I told id look around (I already had a person in mind) and I told her to get a wali. She got a salafi wali and I immediatly called him and told him I was interested - he adviced her to "only marry sunnis", but fortunately she did not listen to him and accepted my proposal - her mahr was a lofty $100, a ring, and a decent used car. I had been single for so long specificly because the arabs said I ws either not Muslim, or their daughters wanted 20 thounsand or 30 thousand - I got some proposals from the SE asains, but I was not interested.
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