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Old 08-28-2010, 01:21 PM   #29
neictscek

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Oh no - its much easier to marry a convert sister - thats what I did

It is easier because the two have alot in common, and culturaly they are on the same page.

...but I have not met many sisters who converted all on their own.

My wife converted and began to learn Islam from salafis. She than asked another sister about sufism and what it was. the salafi sister told her the usual takfiri noise, but she wanted to hear about it from a practitioner of tassawuf. In our city there is only a handful of us ahli sunnah types around, so she asked for some litterature from me. I gave it to her a sent her on her way. About 6 months later she contacted meagain and asked if any sufi bros were looking to get married. I told id look around (I already had a person in mind) and I told her to get a wali. She got a salafi wali and I immediatly called him and told him I was interested - he adviced her to "only marry sunnis", but fortunately she did not listen to him and accepted my proposal - her mahr was a lofty $100, a ring, and a decent used car. I had been single for so long specificly because the arabs said I ws either not Muslim, or their daughters wanted 20 thounsand or 30 thousand - I got some proposals from the SE asains, but I was not interested.


for sharing your input bro, as always very interesting, Must meet you one day inshâ Allâh, however I doubt I will ever come to US so we'll have to reschedule this for the âkhirah, .

Just one question, did your wife/wali have any conditions attached like "You need to reach this and that university grade, else you won't get my agreement to marry"? And did you have employment at the time of marriage?

Apologies for asking so much, but I need to compare to get a better understanding...

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