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I am writing this after having a argument with my mother. My family (parents and grandfather) are influenced by the barelwi movement, but they are way worse than barelwis.
Background

My grandfather came to the UK from pakistan. He met a pir("shaykh"). So my Grandad gave bayah to him. The thing is he was a fake sufi(or whatever you call them), he told my grandad that he doesn't have to read Salah. Anyway them my father gave bayah to my grandfather, now he doesn't have to read "salah" (not that he ever did before).

My mum is semi-practicing sometimes she reads salah, not really 5 times a day, but the thing is that her father is just like my grandfather, deviated who has the same beleifs. And she says what her father is doing is correct, because that is what here murshid told him to do.

I could go on and on but here is what i have heard from them :

-Hadrat Ali(ra) was given secret knowledge by the Prophet(sallahu alahi wasalam) which no one knows of.

-That pirs dont have to follow shariah(even tho my Dad fasts the month of ramadaan and goes jummah, my grandad went to hajj)

-That when Allah(swt) asks them about their salah, there pir will come or something like that.

-That what the sufis teach isn't recorded in books, like they tell stories of great shakyhs such as Abdal Qadir Jalani which they have no proof of, they say that you dont need proof.

-Everytime you show them a ayah or hadith they say "aaw you dont the real meaning of this, there is a secret meaning of this as well"

-that whoever doesnt do khatam(food one) isn't a sunni, who ever doesnt do urs isnt a sunni. That whoever doesnt do these are a wahabi.

-I have even heard my Grandad say that Allah is Muhammad(sallahu alahi wasalam), and i saw my Dad nodding and affirming this is true. (not sure if they believe this anymore tho)

-I have heard that, Allah(swt),Ali(ra),Muhammad(sallahu alahi wasalam) are all one.

-That if you want something you should ask for something with the "zaat" of paag taan.

-They love qawwali.

-They do sajda to graves at darbaar.

-They dont want me to gain to much knowledge because i will become a wahabi.


I have tried talking to them whenever i have the guts, but it just ends in a argument so most times i just stay quite. Because islamically am sure i cant yell at my parents.

Also if i say anything bad about there fake pir then my Dad will probably fight me and kick me out of his house.(I am student under the age of 20)

I really didnt want to make this thread, but i really need some counseling because this is really affecting my life.

Also when it comes to marriage they probably wont let me marry anyone except a barelwi who does khatams. Also my Mum wants me to live with her, which i dont want to because i want to get away from there shirk.(Like live in a different house, but still visit them to look after them).

-So in conclusion what can a person like me do ? I guess i can just make du'a and cry.

I have seen people like this before and they never change and die like this. (I am not saying that Allah(swt) cant change them)

-I always keep on thinking what is going to happen to them in the afterlife.

Sorry for making such a long thread, but i had to let this out. And please everyone do du'a for me and them.