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Bismillahi
I dont know about every point you wrote, but some of the points are what my paternal uncle and some aunts believe in.
My uncle just prays mureed's salah in the tahajjud time and rest he leaves out. The aunt says that it is not farz for them to offer farz salah. Nauzubillah. They say that as they are mureed and their chain goes to Sheikh abdul Qadir Jeelani (Raheemahullah), they will be saved from hell fire and they can save others too whom they like from hell recommending to Allah SWT. This is quite a daring thought with no fear. Let Allah SWT save us. They even have the peer's photo in the room and they have small diya in the front. Once the peer visited them and I didn't go in front of him but one of my cousins asked him about hanging the pictures and how angels won't come as I told her. I was hearing him keenly from the room and he was saying something like that picture is to do with drawing with hands while this digital picture carries the noor of the sheikh with it as it was captured. Ya Allah!
Anyway on hearing azan, the pir went to the masjid to offer salah and the mureed, my uncle as usual didn't go and peer didn't even ask him to accompany him.
The problem is they are very deep in such beliefs. If we say something, they say your path is different than ours so let us leave that and they plainly reject whatever we say.
I too don't know how to change them. They are very loving and affectionate people, very generous and so on. I am just praying to Allah and I do not know what to do but i am worried. I am not that good in dawah too. Let Allah guide us all. Amin