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Regarding the 'order of marriage', amongst siblings. Our sheikh certainly considers it a disease. He said that marriages should be conducted in whichever order Allah swt wills. So if a younger daughter gets a marriage offer and she is happy for it, it is better to go for it. Because perhaps the older daughter has a different destiny and perhaps the younger daughter will fall astray if she is not married. I really liked the fact he said this in a khutbah to address an existing widespread problem. From my own personal perspective, I also find that people of 'my' generation actually use this as an excuse to avoid getting married and can engage in... bad behaviour..
speaking of which, this un-necessary delay in marriage is a cultural thing too. In western societies, people have boyfriends and girlfriends, alll of their 'physical' needs are superficially met. In Islam, we need to get married to practice our needs in a halal way. if we delay marriages so people can get 'degrees', and all the trappings of materialistic culture, we can actually take people away from Islam, not bring them closer to it.