Oh please, enough with the emotional rhetoric and guilt. Why don't you answer that question yourself? What if, Allaah forbid, it really was someone of *your* household over there? Wouldn't you feel obligated to drop everything and go? But you don't feel that, right? Nor do you feel obligated to do that, right? If it was your women there, would you be spend even one second posting on Sunniforum, or finding the first flight to a neighboring country and arranging to smuggle yourself into Syria. You know why? Because it really *isn't* your wife, mother, or daughter. Forget about you and me, what about our examples - scholars, mashaikh, imams, etc ... Learn from their example. They're not sulking all day over this, nor are they making their whole community feel guilty for not responding in the same way as if it was "their own mothers and daughters". They make heartfelt dua, they donate from their own pockets, and they encourage their communities to do the same. Then they go about their day fulfilling their local responsibilities, leading salat, teaching the deen, spiritually advising people, etc ... You know why? Because it's not "their mothers and daughters" ... it's not the same thing, and hence not the same level of responsibility.