[Peertantyb]

The answer is quite simple sister.

"Those who coin the words of the issue; own the discussion"

Unfortunately, the muslims have not learned this basic fact.

I would agree with that statement. Muslims are unnaware that the inherent meanings of words effect the outcomes of discussion.
We need to deconstruct words to their core root meanings.

For example, those who accuse the muslims of classing them as "infidel"
We should reply; "Infidel" is from the latin Fidelis, which means Faith. So infidel is "without faith", whether that is Christian, Jewish, Muslim or any Faith in a Higher Supreme Authority.
Therefore its not purely a muslim accusation, and not even that derogatory, rather an accusation levelled by one with any "faith"

Hey, maybe someone should start a thread, where we can deconstruct commonly misdiagnosed phraseology.