I think the problem will be solved if men behave like men. That doesn't mean make your voice artificially deep and have big muscles and veins popping out of your forehead or something. Some of the idea we have of being a man is just as hollywood as the "bad boys" those foolish people are chasing. Being a man in this context means: 1. Having the appearance of a man- loose fitting clothing, above the ankles, one-fist length beard, hair of the appropriate length, etc. 2. Lowering the gaze and refusing all unnecessary communication with ghayr-mahrams. In the case of absolutely necessary communication, it should be short, to-the-point, brusque. 3. Stand up to the parents (politely but firmly, not budging an inch) in the matter of your wife being chosen on the basis of piety and the nikah and everything leading up to it being strictly according to shariah and sunnah. Actually, being one hundred percent firm on having nikah and walimah simple and according to sunnah can assure you of either a good wife or a good wife's family (or both) every time. If a man has these three qualities, they are man enough and they will have a good wife, iA. It doesn't matter if they are shy and soft-spoken, prone to crying, soft-hearted and the other qualities that hollywood portrays as un-manly. Beyond that, the answer to the question is that foolish people are going to be foolish. There's nothing surprising about that!