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**elects** · 07-04-2012, 06:57 AM

There is the spirit of the law and the letter of the law...if the spirit is missing we get a rigid and harsh law, if the letter is missing we get too much tolerance and everything becomes permissible. Balance is needed in particular situations and only a very enlightened and aware man will know when to choose a particular method over another. Rasulullah

had his wives (RA) argue with him sometimes, and he

is the noblest creation...so the hadith kind of shows this side of his

character, yet he

also separated himself

from them for a month...which shows another side to his

character.

^This is very confusing! Mainly the first pharagraph about Amma Aisha & Hafs (raa). Why did the author not gave reference to the Hadith that he quoted there.

A husband has to understand one thing and that is Allah (swt) has made them the leader over their wives and children. Normally there must exist an environment of love and harmony in the family. However, its the responsibility of the husband that he ensure that the wife and children are not deviated from the right path, incase if he notices that his wife is being rebellious, greedy, or obstinate then its his responsibility to set her straight by first being nice/polite with her, and then gradually become stricter if the situation does not improve (ofcourse with hikmah). Quite analogous to how the Khalifah is suppose to interact with their people, first warn and then impose fine.

07-04-2012, 06:57 AM	#10
elects Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 408 Senior Member	There is the spirit of the law and the letter of the law...if the spirit is missing we get a rigid and harsh law, if the letter is missing we get too much tolerance and everything becomes permissible. Balance is needed in particular situations and only a very enlightened and aware man will know when to choose a particular method over another. Rasulullah had his wives (RA) argue with him sometimes, and he is the noblest creation...so the hadith kind of shows this side of his character, yet he also separated himself from them for a month...which shows another side to his character. ^This is very confusing! Mainly the first pharagraph about Amma Aisha & Hafs (raa). Why did the author not gave reference to the Hadith that he quoted there. A husband has to understand one thing and that is Allah (swt) has made them the leader over their wives and children. Normally there must exist an environment of love and harmony in the family. However, its the responsibility of the husband that he ensure that the wife and children are not deviated from the right path, incase if he notices that his wife is being rebellious, greedy, or obstinate then its his responsibility to set her straight by first being nice/polite with her, and then gradually become stricter if the situation does not improve (ofcourse with hikmah). Quite analogous to how the Khalifah is suppose to interact with their people, first warn and then impose fine.
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