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**picinaRefadia** · 06-30-2012, 04:44 AM

I am undergoing the same pressure as you.. I am 1 or 2 years elder to you & I know the pain.
See we need to maintain distance , patience is required from our side. Dont scold or think bad about him, I am a learner in jamaat. I havent spend more than 4 days of Khurooj in my life. They ask me to give bayan and after bayan on guy take classes for me pointing mistakes, they say me to give karguzaari - and this troublesome guy scolded me twice in front of everyone that I dont know how to give kaarguzaari. One he even scolded me in front of everyone in taleem majlis for correcting his english. I am in a different country where I dont even have 1 of my relation/family friend, this is really pathetic.

Better avoid those guys, maintain distance

السلام عليكم

Brother, if such situation arises while in Jamaat, you should not keep things to yourself, rather upon your return from Jamaat, elders in the locality should be made aware of before the Karguzari. Elders will then give Targhib how to deal with newcomers or behave with each other. Moreover, these things are discussed before the Jamaat is sent out. Well, some brothers won't pay attention to the most important talk before the Jamaats go out. It looks like the person you mention is one of them.

06-30-2012, 04:44 AM	#11
picinaRefadia Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 475 Senior Member	I am undergoing the same pressure as you.. I am 1 or 2 years elder to you & I know the pain. See we need to maintain distance , patience is required from our side. Dont scold or think bad about him, I am a learner in jamaat. I havent spend more than 4 days of Khurooj in my life. They ask me to give bayan and after bayan on guy take classes for me pointing mistakes, they say me to give karguzaari - and this troublesome guy scolded me twice in front of everyone that I dont know how to give kaarguzaari. One he even scolded me in front of everyone in taleem majlis for correcting his english. I am in a different country where I dont even have 1 of my relation/family friend, this is really pathetic. Better avoid those guys, maintain distance السلام عليكم Brother, if such situation arises while in Jamaat, you should not keep things to yourself, rather upon your return from Jamaat, elders in the locality should be made aware of before the Karguzari. Elders will then give Targhib how to deal with newcomers or behave with each other. Moreover, these things are discussed before the Jamaat is sent out. Well, some brothers won't pay attention to the most important talk before the Jamaats go out. It looks like the person you mention is one of them.
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