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I don't want to be the retard who passes over a good woman because of preconcieved notions of how my life should proceed either Fair enough.

1. Wanting children is a huge issue. You guys have to be on the same page there.

Edit: My earlier statement implied I don't see adoptive kids in the same way as biological kids. I think they should be treated exactly the same way.

2. She is a good woman, but what she needs is someone who loves her, not someone who feels bad for her because of her situation. I'm speaking personally here.

3. Depends entirely on the friends. I'm not sure what kind of crowd you run with, but your friends can be a real problem. Did she not want you to hang out with your friends, or what was the deal there? Do your friends all say negative things about her?

4. I agree with Tuberski, it does sound like you hardened your heart to prevent from getting too attached to someone who might pass away soon.