Drea, I don't have the answer, I'll leave that for the more experienced. I would like to tell you about something I do. I tell family members, friends & my spirit guides if they need to get a message to me & can't get through to me to please send message through someone here if they can. I would say that this is my way of giving them permission. I send out these messages after grounding & protection. I do specify that it is only to spirits of the divine white light. I am trying to be more in tune & listen & watch for messages. I sometimes wonder off in thoughts & probably miss so much. I am working on it.