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**denwerdinoss** · 01-10-2012, 11:05 PM

We've both tried hard to find things we can do together, things we can talk about that will allow us to remain close without sucking me into my old bad habits. ... I feel it would unfair to act like I am judging him for doing exactly the things I did not so long ago, but I am just not comfortable.
So, I suppose my question is, is it possible to keep your old friends in such a situation?

As many people have noted, it is a fact of life that we lose old friends and gain new friends as life goes on. However, I have to wonder why it is that the only concern here seems to be that you can only talk about things that are tempting to you in order to remain close. If this person is truly your lifelong friend, they will want to share in the things that you love and that inspire you. So bring this person to the Church and then you can talk about the Church and the spiritual life and how wonderful you have found it to be. Hopefully this kind of thing that you can do together and talk about will not "suck you back into your old bad habits." If this person is not willing to share your new life as you shared his old life, then perhaps he's not really looking for a friend but just looking for someone to justify his own "old bad habits"

Fr David

Fr David

01-10-2012, 11:05 PM	#6
denwerdinoss Join Date Nov 2005 Posts 420 Senior Member	We've both tried hard to find things we can do together, things we can talk about that will allow us to remain close without sucking me into my old bad habits. ... I feel it would unfair to act like I am judging him for doing exactly the things I did not so long ago, but I am just not comfortable. So, I suppose my question is, is it possible to keep your old friends in such a situation? As many people have noted, it is a fact of life that we lose old friends and gain new friends as life goes on. However, I have to wonder why it is that the only concern here seems to be that you can only talk about things that are tempting to you in order to remain close. If this person is truly your lifelong friend, they will want to share in the things that you love and that inspire you. So bring this person to the Church and then you can talk about the Church and the spiritual life and how wonderful you have found it to be. Hopefully this kind of thing that you can do together and talk about will not "suck you back into your old bad habits." If this person is not willing to share your new life as you shared his old life, then perhaps he's not really looking for a friend but just looking for someone to justify his own "old bad habits" Fr David Fr David
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