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**Jannet.K** · 09-03-2012, 06:19 AM

How to REALLY handle an abuser:

The title of this vignette would more appropriately be, "How to stick it to an abuser". As Ishtar knows, I have had problems dealing with one of my business partners who is an abuser and set up an abusive relationship with me (as well as our other business partners). This situation came to a head over the weekend as I became completely frustrated with this individual's creatively avoiding me, delaying my requests to honour his financial commitments, and his being condescending during the process. Yes, by last weekend {I had hit my personal abuse limit.}

{Once my intent was clear, and once I took action, the Universe responded quickly. It took me three days (Rule of 3) to get this straightened out, but it took the Universe less than one minute to respond.}

Those around me, including my immediate family as well as the attorney, are now in awe at what was accomplished since they are intimidated by this abuser also. It is a lesson to them to stand up for themselves and what can happen when you do so.

Conclusion: there is now a new Sheriff in town and the abuser has been sat in the corner and told to STFU or go away. Everyone can breathe easier today, and life promises to be more productive from here on out ... as long as ... I disallow the abuser from continuing his routine of intimidation which, of course, he will attempt. The price of freedom is eternal vigilance, right?

Thank so much for sharing Cogs. I believe the first bit "I had hit my personal abuse limit" is the beginning. People do something after this happens. Before that they simply are not ready. At this point something 'clicks into place'. Then 'clear intent' and taking action bit is whats required to get the Universe on side and we all know the speed with which change can happen after that.

This has all been a good reminder for me. I had bullying relationships at 3 places of employment when dealing with this issue.

09-03-2012, 06:19 AM	#12
Jannet.K Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 517 Senior Member	How to REALLY handle an abuser: The title of this vignette would more appropriately be, "How to stick it to an abuser". As Ishtar knows, I have had problems dealing with one of my business partners who is an abuser and set up an abusive relationship with me (as well as our other business partners). This situation came to a head over the weekend as I became completely frustrated with this individual's creatively avoiding me, delaying my requests to honour his financial commitments, and his being condescending during the process. Yes, by last weekend {I had hit my personal abuse limit.} {Once my intent was clear, and once I took action, the Universe responded quickly. It took me three days (Rule of 3) to get this straightened out, but it took the Universe less than one minute to respond.} Those around me, including my immediate family as well as the attorney, are now in awe at what was accomplished since they are intimidated by this abuser also. It is a lesson to them to stand up for themselves and what can happen when you do so. Conclusion: there is now a new Sheriff in town and the abuser has been sat in the corner and told to STFU or go away. Everyone can breathe easier today, and life promises to be more productive from here on out ... as long as ... I disallow the abuser from continuing his routine of intimidation which, of course, he will attempt. The price of freedom is eternal vigilance, right? Thank so much for sharing Cogs. I believe the first bit "I had hit my personal abuse limit" is the beginning. People do something after this happens. Before that they simply are not ready. At this point something 'clicks into place'. Then 'clear intent' and taking action bit is whats required to get the Universe on side and we all know the speed with which change can happen after that. This has all been a good reminder for me. I had bullying relationships at 3 places of employment when dealing with this issue.
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