[squicscor]

ponnu,

i am with you in your sentiments re the tight purse of groom's families.

it will take time to change, is not a good arguement, if you are parent of a bride of today, and it is your pension and savings that are at stake.

i think, that is why, god has given us a mouth. why can't we speak up?

after all, now a days, the girls come home with thick paychecks. is that not against tradition? the girls multitask - cooks, housekeeper, caregiver to inlaws, income earner in addition to companionship and partnership.. how much of this is tradition?

i think, a frank discussion, right upfront, will clear the air, and level the playing field.

in the ultimate, the boy's side too will be proud to claim that they are 'modern' in having footed half of the total wedding expenses.

which is not much, because chances are that all the jewellery has been bought over the years. .. right?

re dances and performances by children... heaven save us. NO.

i think this is the worst type of torture that could be inflicted on guests. actually, if you mention this in the invitation, i think there will be a marked downward trend in people accepting the invitations.

the only thing that beats live performance, is the promise of hosts playing the wedding videos over and over again.

please, spare us this torture.. unless ofcourse, this goes as credit as punniams when we get judged in the next world