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**Paiblyelaxy** · 05-12-2008, 06:29 AM

saab,

please feel free to ask any question. i will attempt to answer within my limited means.

i am not a metaphysical person and am unfamiliar with the numerous philosophies that we can claim as our ancestrage. at this point in my life, there is no curiosity either. maybe some time in the future.

which is why, whatever i comment on, is based on my experiences, and that too is limited.

your query re numbers: in a democracy numbers count, as the flawed example i have used to explain in my last posting. i am not at all sure if always, always numbers have clouts. maybe. may not be. who knows.

i look upon our community and its declining numbers as a fact. i am 57 and probably the first generation product of a planned family. though it was not talked about in the house, i have only one sibling, as opposed everyone in my neighbourhood who had anything from 4 to 10 kids.

i do not know, if my parents' generation, ever pondered the effect this would have 50 years later, when compounded with the next generation, on the effect on matrimonial choices for their progeny.

i know of 2 bachelors in my extended family, what the community would call good brahmin boys, clean habits, good i.t. jobs, who want wives. wives who should be willing to live with their in-laws, as these good brahmin boys have never left home. they have been looking for a few years now, and nothing works. so they become bitter and blame the girls.

personally, i would recommend these boys to any family for the sole reason, these boys are too tradition bound and tied to their mother's sari still. that is my take, and i will be the first one to say, that it need not be the majority view nor it be the correct view. it is my view and my view alone.

but if the gene pool had been larger, these boys would have had a better chance of finding a spouse, of the same caste, sub caste, agreeing horoscopes, matching economic expectations, seedhanam and all that stuff that we indulge in when plannning a wedding. so in this case, somewhat indirectly numbers did matter. i think.

thank you sir.

05-12-2008, 06:29 AM	#10
Paiblyelaxy Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 417 Senior Member	saab, please feel free to ask any question. i will attempt to answer within my limited means. i am not a metaphysical person and am unfamiliar with the numerous philosophies that we can claim as our ancestrage. at this point in my life, there is no curiosity either. maybe some time in the future. which is why, whatever i comment on, is based on my experiences, and that too is limited. your query re numbers: in a democracy numbers count, as the flawed example i have used to explain in my last posting. i am not at all sure if always, always numbers have clouts. maybe. may not be. who knows. i look upon our community and its declining numbers as a fact. i am 57 and probably the first generation product of a planned family. though it was not talked about in the house, i have only one sibling, as opposed everyone in my neighbourhood who had anything from 4 to 10 kids. i do not know, if my parents' generation, ever pondered the effect this would have 50 years later, when compounded with the next generation, on the effect on matrimonial choices for their progeny. i know of 2 bachelors in my extended family, what the community would call good brahmin boys, clean habits, good i.t. jobs, who want wives. wives who should be willing to live with their in-laws, as these good brahmin boys have never left home. they have been looking for a few years now, and nothing works. so they become bitter and blame the girls. personally, i would recommend these boys to any family for the sole reason, these boys are too tradition bound and tied to their mother's sari still. that is my take, and i will be the first one to say, that it need not be the majority view nor it be the correct view. it is my view and my view alone. but if the gene pool had been larger, these boys would have had a better chance of finding a spouse, of the same caste, sub caste, agreeing horoscopes, matching economic expectations, seedhanam and all that stuff that we indulge in when plannning a wedding. so in this case, somewhat indirectly numbers did matter. i think. thank you sir.
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