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**orgagsUpsepsy** · 05-22-2007, 05:23 PM

I am just curious, are there any significant differences between Iyer and Iyengar wedding ceremonies? I know Iyer marriage ceremonies can last upto 3 days if all traditions are followed. In case an Iyer man marries an Iyengar woman, which side's priests will officiate at the ceremony, and which side gets to pick the auspicious date? Many thanks for a prompt response!

Mrifan,

I am certainly not an authority on these matters but purely from observations i can state some differences

a) Firstly in an iyengar marriage the term "yenda ambi" will be heard resonating through all the days

b) During bandhi, saadam podamatta, but sadatha "kuthuva", there will be no rasam but "shathumadhu", there will be no poriyal but "karamadhu"

c) Even serving wise, iyengars start with salt which i think iyers dont

d) On the ritual side, in an iyengar marriage the bride sits on the lap of the father (wonder what would have happened had bindugosh been an iyengar !!!) while the groom ties the thali

e) Some of my best friends are iyengars.....and anti-australians while i am a die-hard australian....so it gave me immense pleasure to see them turn into aussies -yellow veshti i.e white dhoti smeared fully with turmeric- during the marriage rituals

f) And lastly, most of the iyengar marriages i have been to, i have seen the largest assembly of vathyars....infact at one of my iyengar friends marriage, the mandapam had barely enough space for him & his would-be wife to sit....there were about 11 vathyars making him turn, twist, bend, jump (now that's exaggeration !).....the main vathyar had such long hair that instantenously we named him M S Dhoni for "Main Sastrigal" Dhoni !!!!!

Enlightening isn't it !!!!!

Now well informed forum members can come up with more realistic differences and to all iyengar members of the forum - kshetha yenna shamichidungo !

05-22-2007, 05:23 PM	#3
orgagsUpsepsy Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 446 Senior Member	I am just curious, are there any significant differences between Iyer and Iyengar wedding ceremonies? I know Iyer marriage ceremonies can last upto 3 days if all traditions are followed. In case an Iyer man marries an Iyengar woman, which side's priests will officiate at the ceremony, and which side gets to pick the auspicious date? Many thanks for a prompt response! Mrifan, I am certainly not an authority on these matters but purely from observations i can state some differences a) Firstly in an iyengar marriage the term "yenda ambi" will be heard resonating through all the days b) During bandhi, saadam podamatta, but sadatha "kuthuva", there will be no rasam but "shathumadhu", there will be no poriyal but "karamadhu" c) Even serving wise, iyengars start with salt which i think iyers dont d) On the ritual side, in an iyengar marriage the bride sits on the lap of the father (wonder what would have happened had bindugosh been an iyengar !!!) while the groom ties the thali e) Some of my best friends are iyengars.....and anti-australians while i am a die-hard australian....so it gave me immense pleasure to see them turn into aussies -yellow veshti i.e white dhoti smeared fully with turmeric- during the marriage rituals f) And lastly, most of the iyengar marriages i have been to, i have seen the largest assembly of vathyars....infact at one of my iyengar friends marriage, the mandapam had barely enough space for him & his would-be wife to sit....there were about 11 vathyars making him turn, twist, bend, jump (now that's exaggeration !).....the main vathyar had such long hair that instantenously we named him M S Dhoni for "Main Sastrigal" Dhoni !!!!! Enlightening isn't it !!!!! Now well informed forum members can come up with more realistic differences and to all iyengar members of the forum - kshetha yenna shamichidungo !
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