[PetrZimin]

When you say "women" it sounds like you're describing your woman.

Stand up for yourself man Don't lay back, bare your stomach and take it all. Express your dissatisfaction - only a little bit at a time mind you, don't save it all up and unload it all at once. Do it as it comes up. You went to buy bread, and she wants half the store? You pay for the bread. She asks "Why aren't you paying for the rest of it?" Say "I don't want it - you do. You pay."

For years I've watched men lay down and take it, and does it pay off for them? No, they get left. Stand up for yourself. Your woman will respect you for it in the long run, and if she doesn't, then **** her, she was the wrong one for you anyway.

[syptopsygieds]

You want to spend time enjoying your hobbies, and so does she. Her hobby is spending time with you. Youre like a new game for her. she wants to play with you all the time lol. give it some time and you will get some free time, probably.

You pay for the bread. She asks "Why aren't you paying for the rest of it?" Say "I don't want it - you do. You pay."

She will get the hump when you want to eat her delicious food later. Im sure what she got is a lot better than your loaf of bread!

[bely832new]

Sounds like she's a bad one. Is she that bad? Maybe she's not. Just think of all the things she does for you and be thankfull.

NO she is not a bad one That was definitely an overboard.... The things my SO has gone through with me because of my situation has been tremendous. She's been my biggest support, never leaving my side, showing loyalty to the end if that would have been the case.

Not only that, but everything is good. The shopping stuff is pretty much the only thing that gets me, but I guess that's just their thing. I definitely get to do what I want, and I DO play my games when I want to

[DrBrightonone]

NO she is not a bad one That was definitely an overboard.... The things my SO has gone through with me because of my situation has been tremendous. She's been my biggest support, never leaving my side, showing loyalty to the end if that would have been the case.

Not only that, but everything is good. The shopping stuff is pretty much the only thing that gets me, but I guess that's just their thing. I definitely get to do what I want, and I DO play my games when I want to

Let's hope some day, you will say 45 years and counting. Number 46 will be next Nov 8, 2010. Take care.

Joseph

[anolbom]

Let's hope some day, you will say 45 years and counting. Number 46 will be next Nov 8, 2010. Take care.

Joseph

46 for you? That's pretty amazing. I'm not even close to being 46 years old, let alone with the same woman. I'm in it for the long haul as well.

Imran, I was exaggerating with most of the things. If it was an accurate description, I think it would have been over pretty fast. I still don't like shopping though. But she puts up with stuff I want to do. For example, I work way too much still, and she has expressed her concern over it, yet she doesn't come in the way because I like my work. But things like these can be major issues with couples. So far she's been able to cope with it, naturally I'm cutting back and scaling it down more, I'm in transition of forming my old one man business into a company with few more owners and partners, and doing my PhD at the same time so I'm extremely busy with these things. And pregnant women might thing that a man should be doing something else than typing his nerdy papers about nerdy subjects all night long.

So she has more reasons to be writing posts like this So, she puts with lots of stuff and is capable of doing so. if I really want something, it's OK, it gets done. I don't think she has ever really refused me of anything.

[Agrisalia]

NO she is not a bad one That was definitely an overboard.... The things my SO has gone through with me because of my situation has been tremendous. She's been my biggest support, never leaving my side, showing loyalty to the end if that would have been the case.

Not only that, but everything is good. The shopping stuff is pretty much the only thing that gets me, but I guess that's just their thing. I definitely get to do what I want, and I DO play my games when I want to

Oh yea, when you become dependent on them they tend to keep it that way.

Anyway, it sounds like it's all good.

[Weislenalkata]

To both of you.

One day at a time.

There will ups and downs.

Decide early on, I'm not leaving.

Other Girls will be there from time to time. But is it worth it.

I've decided long time ago I'm not going to leave. It is also a question of options: I choose to be a person that does not follow some random urges. More important is to be decent and respectable, and not for anyone else but to myself.

But yeah, things are going well. I guess pregnant women can sometimes be a bit irrational, yes, and also insecure and have these nightmare scenarios inside their heads. None of which will become true, at least in my case. In a way it's understandable though.

[phernikas]

The evolution of Pekka is a precautionary story.

[Forex Autopilot]

No, in this case, you're spot on.

[feAilei1]

The evolution of Pekka is a precautionary story.

I'm still not sure exactly what happened. Supercitizen to brain tumor, to pregnant girlfriend and family man Pekka. Hmmm...

[chechokancho]

me perhaps proposing to her, for the supercitizen there should be no perhaps.

[TimoDassss]

for the supercitizen there should be no perhaps.

In modern, civilised societies, the formality of a wedding is no longer required as proof of commitment to a relationship, and both parties enjoy the same (or in the case of Australia, better) legal rights as if they had.

[WomanBreast40356]

It's always the man that says that.
Women think a bit different. If nothing else, it should be done for the child.

Why?

I never had a wedding, but have been happily co-habiting with the mother of my 3 children for 17 years. Neither she nor the children are showing any ill-effects.

[WapSaibian]

Marriage is still a big thing in the States...

EDIT Imran: it's not anymore in a lot of places. In Quebec a majority of children is born outside of wedlock.

[bmwservis]

Different culture so I can't judge.
I wanted my child to have my name. You'd be considered common law married up here and have most of the same legal rights.

We can put pretty much whatever we like on birth certificates, married or not. My children all have my surname, although in retrospect we should have given them my wife's, as it is cooler.

[tipokot]

You'd be considered common law married up here and have most of the same legal rights.

A slight nitpick is that many states have abolished common law marriage.

According to wikipedia:

Common-law marriage can still be contracted in eleven states (Alabama, Colorado, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, New Hampshire (posthumously), Oklahoma, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Texas, and Utah) and in the District of Columbia.

[antiggill]

They don't have any.

Thankfully, a wedding is as simple as going to the county clerk and filing out some documents.

[staisacic]

What are the benefits of not being married?
Leaving out the cost of a big wedding since I'm sure there's a cheap option like here.

[vasyasvc]

Resentment against the RCC.

[bs44MhUW]

What are the benefits of not being married?
Leaving out the cost of a big wedding since I'm sure there's a cheap option like here.

The fact that we don't have to put undue pressure on our relationship by making rash promises that, looking at it objectively, just aren't ours to make.

Specifically, for me and my wife to promise to stay together forever no matter what was and is just speculative.