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I have known that CH mother cheated on her husband, I now suspect that he also cheated on her because I exposed my CH to my father-inlaw just recently and his response was that I was not the only woman to be hurt. So I now believe that both CH's parents were cheats and therefore I have zero respect for them and blame them for some degree for him also choosing to cheat.

FIL tore strips off me when I told him about his son joing dating sites and sex with OW, and my CH did not defend me or stop his father's tirade against me. FIL told me not to disrespect my CH in front of his grandchildren, wtf? He also told me to respect his wife. Pity my CH couldnt stand up to his father when all this was going on. FIL also tried to find fault with my siblings by saying that they were at loggerheads on my wedding day. Isnt a woman's wedding day supposed to be the happiest day of her life and is this why he chose to say something false about my family that he noticed on that day? I realise also that my inlaws dont know if I have brothers or sisters.

Anyway, it is their 50th wedd anniversary next month and as I dislike them now with a passion I dont want to go. In fact I want them out of my life completely. Fancy trying to find fault with my family when I exposed his cheating son to him. He should have directed his abuse towards his son and the damage that he has caused to me and his family instead of trying to blame me (oh yes, he said that maybe I didnt give CH what he wanted, my response that CH wanted variety in his women, not just me). He also said that I have a problem. This is coming from a 75yo secret-keeping stubborn hoarder. He should back off and realise his life is almost over and that we are not living in the 1950s nor does he still have control over everyone in his family. He even made a comment that my eldest child no longer seemed very happy, no doubt blaming me for that too, not realising that the turmoil hIS cheating son has created in our family.

OK back to the anniversary, I dont want to go because I hate them, but I dont know how to get out of it. Any thoughts?