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I posted this on the cheating husband section but realized maybe that wasn't the right place. So here goes I hope someone will give me some insight.

Okay so I have looked for a husband of one of the women my husband cheated with for months.....You see he had emailed me when he had thought his wife was having an affair with my husband....Turns out he was right but I had NO evidence at the time...this affair lasted physically only for 3 days, however they carried on an emotional affair for months in 2007-2008.

Then she came out and said she was a lesbian....she friend requested me on facebook late last year. I had no clue they had had sex and the fact that she would request me and profess to be a lesbian blah blah blah. Anyway this year I got the confession from my husband that they had infact met in Las Vegas while she had went there with her friends. Anyway after the confession from my husband I confronted her, she said she wanted to tell me sooner but that my CH and I were trying to work things out and she didn't want to ruin that, that I had no worries because she was totally gay now, and she said that if I told her STBXH she wouldn't be able to see her kids blah blah blah....

Skip to a month if that later....she is totally straight and professing her love for her supposed to be STBXH....I kept trying to find a way to contact him but he didn't have a searchable facebook or myspace and he wasn't even on of her friends on either....until 2 weeks ago...

I somewhat feel he has a right to know exactly what kind of wh0re he is married to. I don't want to cause anymore problems for myself....but since he took the time to tell me a few years ago shouldn't I return the favor. I don't think I am doing it to be a b**ch. Doesn't he have a right to know?

Or has it been too many years and would pointless and hurtful. I don't know anymore. I pretty much feel like I am lost if I tell him will it help him, hurt me somehow...I have no clue. I know I want to know...but does he still?

Sorry to have so many posts but I am just at a loss right now....part of me was like no i shouldn't it is too long ago....but he was seriously hurt just thinking she might be.....and he did take the time to contact me should I know show him the same respect now I that I have confirmation from both parties????? Being an adult dealing with cheaters is just a sh**ty place to be.