[aLZ9zKsO]

I came across an interesting article about passive aggressive behaviour and I feel it fits my husband (cheating behind my back for 6 years, sex with 2ow).

It says: A passive aggressive man will choose a partner who is a total opposite of him. All passive aggressive men are incapable of expressing their feelings upfront, Hence they will look for a partner who is direct and honest, As time passes and the relationship loses its newness, a passive aggressive man will sulk every time his partner expresses herself. An honest declaration of anger, irritation or any of her problems regarding the relationship will be taken extremely negatively by him, sending his partner on a guilt trip. As this makes him look victimized, he will look for ways to heal his wounds. This takes him on the dangerous path of extra marital affairs.

Since your passive aggressive man is hurt and wounded by your harsh words, he goes out to find an emotional support. However, he is not going to assert his madness and he is never going to stand up for himself. He will sneak up behind you and begin socializing with other woman friends. At the same time, he will do everything in his capacity to hide it from you. This is his payoff and your pay back time. Passive aggressive men and cheating, is a very common trait of such men.

So although I figured to some degree that my husband has some traits of the sociopath, once I looked into traits of passive aggressive men, I found this is what he is and I can also see that is what his father is too. Not discussing emotional problems, but prefering to do what they want behind your back but appearing to still be a committed caring husband.

I wish I had known my husband longer before I married him, but I guess I was 33 and keen to get married and have a family by that age and I had no idea of his true personality or the fact that he had come from a family who had faced infidelity by his own mother. This was his family secret that was kept from me.

Anyway, thanks for reading.

[TyncTyncSah]

I wonder does this theory explain the female cheater as well? Just curious of other's thoughts on this.

[brulpcoersero]

Sounds like someone that spinelss, gutless without a sense of responsibility.
Chicken sh*ts, that is what they are.

[reiruviartugs]

I see passive agressive behaviour just about every day. People at work, in social settings, my parents, my wife, my kids, me, etc.

I don't know if I believe this theory. Or that is what makes him a cheater, or that cheaters are passive aggressive. It goes back to the sociopath arguement for cheaters. Not all sociopaths are cheaters and not all cheaters are sociopaths. There is also a difference between being a sociopath and showing some traits of a sociopath.

[Fegemiembendy]

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[Preorbtat]

I just read an article on this as well.
My CH ticks every single box.
wow.