[ådrrraj]

I would really like to know from others...
Does the cheating husband always come crawling back?

and if so what were the circumstances,
were they living with the OW?
How long did it take for them to come back?
Did you take him back?
Did it work out?
Were you divorced before he came back?
Was there a reason he came back?

I must admit if my cheating Husband come back at this point in time i would take him. However I would still love it if he came crawling back even after i had moved on just for the revenge factor.

I would love to hear form you...

[Sheestgag]

They always come back. Not that they are sincere about wanting to be there yanno? Its a lack of options.

Now...all relationships are about control and power. Who has it and who wants it. When he had the power....he cheated and treated you like ****. Remember that when you get weak and want to work it out with this guy.

[Dwnijzhd]

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[ådrrraj]

I can relate to the cheater having all the power before they cheat.
That is what happened to me, however Im sure he would say he felt powerless and trapped (situation was bad with money etc)

I hear they come back when you start taking the power back and get on with things...thats the hard part.

When he called the other day asking ME to find out about how to divorce (internationally) I just kind of went along with it like we were still married. I got off the phone and thought, wow...he treats me like we are still married and hes asking me to take care of a bill or something. I think in his head he doesnt understand the reality that he cant have me be complying and live the life hes living after hurting me. And silly me fell for it...I just get in "wife" mode like everythigns normal...

I think it's time for some elton john "the ***** is back" and we'll see what happens.

[tevyrefficy]

Sparrow: Whether it be CH or CW I think most do come crawling back, or in my case CW wouldn't leave. It's been almost a year. The relationship is sometimes okay and then we have the occassional fallout. I'm still giving her a chance at this stage. She has improved. Her wanting to include me in the cause of her infidelity has always been my main issue with her. She wants to blame marriage issues, rather than her being just plain selfish, as the cause of her cheating. So I'll wait & see.

Monster: you are so right about control & power. Like Jeison, I let my CW have the power in our marriage. But now that everything has changed, She no longer will have that. She is so remorseful until I back down, & then she carries on like all is normal & she has the power again. That's when I let her know that's not how it's going to be. She will never dictate terms to me again. I will be fair to her, but I will do what I want to do. She is finally beginning to realise that. Time will tell.

[bashansasasasa]

I would argue that a healthy relationship is NOT about power and control.

In fact, an abusive relationship is about power and control. Full Stop.

I"m not sure about the rest of you, but I"ve got NO desire to be in ANY sort of relationship (friendship or romantic) that is about power and control.

KitKat

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