Honestly, and I'm sure I'm in the VAST minority. If they are respectful and honest they could possibly be a valuable resource of information and insite into the mind of a cheater. I wouldn't mind if they posted.

The problem is that I don't know that we are going to find a cheater that is going to come here and be respectful and honest.

You can not expect a persons with lack of morals or character to post anything that is sincere or helpful.

only if they come in here totally remorseful and giving advice on how to handle people like them and aren't trying to put the blame on their victims.

If they come in here like some and try to give all the excuses as to why they cheated and basically telling everyone that its their betrayed spouses/partner's fault, then they can fek off.

Should cheaters be allowed to post and give advice in this forum
 

Do you feel cheaters should be able to post on this forum?

As one of the mods, I won't answer(though I am pretty sure everyone knows my opinionhttp://www.discussworldissues.com/fo...ilies/wink.gif ) I will abide by what is best for the forum.

I vote No.

I find their posts re-enforce the evidence of how messed up they are by comparison to non-cheating people. In that regard, I find them beneficial, as they demonstrate to the BS how lucky we are to be getting away from them.
It is always very encouraging to me just how similar their disordered thinking is and how evident their deficiencies are.

ild love to say NO, but i say YES. the one thing that made me want to get the courage to post here was the fact that i read from people who went through the same things i went through, but i also saw how the cheaters who had posted were saying the same crap my ex was saying.

in other words it gave me something to compare to. it is good sometimes to read what cheaters have to say. it reinforces how im not an idiot for feeling the way i feel sometimes. it shows me that its not just my ex that lies. it shows me that most all cheaters have the same crap and same lies, so therefore, back to reinforcement and comparison. letting other BSs see that their WS is spewing the same lies as other cheaters is a good thing.

but, if a cheater starts name calling and insulting us BSs, we should ban them no questions asked. i dont even like talking to them, but the comparison thing is key imo.

ild say if a mod gets enough complaints about a cheater who posts here, then ild say let that mod use their own discretion when to ban, and we BSs should stand by them.

I think they will continue to get bashed when they post here. It just seems that they all seem to want to justify themselves. That is the natural way of a cheater, it's always someone else's fault. Some try the remorseful approach here but the true self comes out when their hand is called.

I say NO! There are enough websites out there giving them advice on how to cheat in the first place!

My immediate gut response was a resounding NO!

However, if the person is remorseful and owns what they did without shifting ANY responsibility on to the cheating spouse...hmmm...they may provide some insight.

But allowing them to post, would mean that we should probably create clear guidelines about when to boot them off. Establishing them may be difficult. Also, the mods would have additional duties in terms of enforcing them.

So I guess I"m not much help?! I"m going to think on it for a bit.

I do think that if a cheater posts and shows a lack of remorse (by justifying, minimizing, rationalizing their cheating ways) s/he should be BANNED


KitKat

Okay - there is a thread on here entitled something like, "for a smart woman, I am more than likely dumb" and the cheater on that thread should be banned, IMO.

LOL...I vote that we just ask them to leave. I get a certain amount of satisfaction telling them to fck off. http://www.discussworldissues.com/fo...es/biggrin.gif if they are rude (and just informing them that this is not the right forum for cheaters if they are polite/remorseful etc)

But if they don't leave quietly, then they should be banned.

I know sis, I love to bash them a little before they leave. I think there are enough sites for them and this one started out to be only a victim's site. I worry there being so many cheaters out there the whole forum will get flooded with their justifications. I don't see any benefit from hearing their lies or reasons they did what they did. Remorseful or not. I only see they chose to do wrong. I don't care to visit prisons to listen to why someone wanted to rape harm or abuse others. But that's just my opinion.

I agree skirtchaser...I was only half serious....I have absolutely no problem banning them that is for sure! Heck, the whole world should ban then to an island where they can all cheat on each other..

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Bree suggests that the island have little fire ant hills for them to lay down in. http://www.discussworldissues.com/fo...lies/smile.gif

So I have thought it over...and I vote "NO"

They shoudl not ever be allowed on this site. period.

KitKat