[pheelixoss]

I posted this on the cheating husband section but realized maybe that wasn't the right place. So here goes I hope someone will give me some insight.

Okay so I have looked for a husband of one of the women my husband cheated with for months.....You see he had emailed me when he had thought his wife was having an affair with my husband....Turns out he was right but I had NO evidence at the time...this affair lasted physically only for 3 days, however they carried on an emotional affair for months in 2007-2008.

Then she came out and said she was a lesbian....she friend requested me on facebook late last year. I had no clue they had had sex and the fact that she would request me and profess to be a lesbian blah blah blah. Anyway this year I got the confession from my husband that they had infact met in Las Vegas while she had went there with her friends. Anyway after the confession from my husband I confronted her, she said she wanted to tell me sooner but that my CH and I were trying to work things out and she didn't want to ruin that, that I had no worries because she was totally gay now, and she said that if I told her STBXH she wouldn't be able to see her kids blah blah blah....

Skip to a month if that later....she is totally straight and professing her love for her supposed to be STBXH....I kept trying to find a way to contact him but he didn't have a searchable facebook or myspace and he wasn't even on of her friends on either....until 2 weeks ago...

I somewhat feel he has a right to know exactly what kind of wh0re he is married to. I don't want to cause anymore problems for myself....but since he took the time to tell me a few years ago shouldn't I return the favor. I don't think I am doing it to be a b**ch. Doesn't he have a right to know?

Or has it been too many years and would pointless and hurtful. I don't know anymore. I pretty much feel like I am lost if I tell him will it help him, hurt me somehow...I have no clue. I know I want to know...but does he still?

Sorry to have so many posts but I am just at a loss right now....part of me was like no i shouldn't it is too long ago....but he was seriously hurt just thinking she might be.....and he did take the time to contact me should I know show him the same respect now I that I have confirmation from both parties????? Being an adult dealing with cheaters is just a sh**ty place to be.

[Dwnijzhd]

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[pheelixoss]

Finally someone answered me. I don't know him at all his wife was my ch first gf at the age of 14 and who he lost his virginity too....he had emailed me years ago with concerns there was an emotional affair going on and that he was worried she was planning on meeting my husband....he thought they were going to meet in FL. Turns out they met in Vegas....I want to tell him but it has been years. The only reason I didn't was I couldn't find him when I had proof and also she was supposedly a lesbian and they weren't together.

Now all of a sudden I guess they are back together....she is all of a sudden straight now, and just saying how much she loves him blah blah blah....

I don't know what he will do I deleted the email because I blocked her on facebook but I am pretty sure I can prove they did because how else would I know she went to vegas with her girlfriends that year....I don't know the hoebag....i don't know what he will do or if it will even matter.

I know i would want to know if someone had proof. I hve confessions from my husband and even her....but like i said no certain proof I should have kept the email but thought it was pointless since she wasn't with him anymore, and was gay.

[Dwnijzhd]

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[pheelixoss]

I seriously doubt she would repeat anything she is a habitual cheater too...with women anyway....and that I know of my husband. I should have kept everything but hind sight is 20/20.

I guess like most of us he is going to have to find it on his own and i am sure the truth will eventually come out. They have been together off and on for 13 years....so i am sure he knows what he needs to about her character.

If I ever have the misfortune of speaking with her again or if she ever tries to contact my husband I will be very quick to let her husband know. I am afraid you are right without concrete proof I will look like the crazy one.

Such is life, I feel bad for the man, hell I feel bad for myself right now. Thanks to all who replied. I have decided not to say anything until any further contact is made on her part.

[Dwnijzhd]

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