[monologue]

I have noticed a small few people have come to this forum of all of us wise and experienced relationship peeps, that will tell their story, the story rings too true, and we give our advice, along with some well-deserved names to the cheaters and/or OW/OM in question.

These people come here hoping that we will blow sunshine up their butts.
Believe me, I understand their pain and confusion, and the fact that they are desperate and not thinking clearly.

So we tell them what we think and what we think of their betrayers. And lo and behold, they start defending the very person that effed them over so badly, and all of a sudden we are the azzholes. So then I have to give them a big "well then be my guest, forgive him/her and quit your complaining"

I'll always be on the side of someone betrayed, but once they attack those of us that are on their side, then I have nothing more to tell them other than move on, forgive them and shut up.

No, I don't really want to get down on someone who is in a fog, and I never will. But when they start with the insults and all of a sudden we are the jerks, not the person that really hurt them, it seems a little off kilter to me.

So I guess this is just me saying, i'll be on someone's side, I'll tell them what I think, and yes, i will call their cheaters the appropriate names.

And if they are still looking to hear what they want to hear, I understand that. But if they come back insulting those of us that are on their side just because we speak the cold hard truth, well sorry, thats when I write them off.

And I will always be this way. A fellow betrayed person that wants to defend their cheater and attack us can pretty much kiss my ass.