[Xzmwskxn]

Ok I'm in a little bit of a pickle here gents, could use your assistance even though there may be no right answer to this.

First, I just got out of a lengthy, healthy relationship, and in an effort to try and quickly get something like that going again, I decided to signup for a certain dating website. Yes I know, they are probably re-re in most peoples minds but I know I"m a fairly decent guy so I said who cares and did it anyways.

Well, immediately I got a ton of interested girls on there, and ended up asking a girl out, who agreed, and then a few days later I asked another one of the girls out for later in the week who also agreed. Now it was kind of a **** thing to do but I was a little curious to see what was out there since I was newly minted single.

Skipping to the point, I went out with the first girl, we had an awesome time and both seem to really like each other, and are already planning on going out again next week. The second girl however has been texting me saying she's excited for her date, yet now I'm having second thoughts but don't want to cancel on her and crush her poor little heart (yes that sounded pretty gay but you get my point). What would you guys do here, I need some wise words as I'm at a loss.

And on top of it there's a third girl who looks uber-hot who also wants to go out. . . but at least that one I put on the backburner.

Didn't realize it would be this crazy, any of you guys been using those sites or been in this boat?

[timmybrown]

Dating can be exciting. Don't feel bad, you haven't' committed yourself to any one girl yet correct? You may even be honest about it and tell them you've been dating recently and are yet to find someone right for you. They may find it rude, but you're looking for the one girl who will step up her game in response to that comment. Trust me and weed out the over-protective ladies early!

[doolarsva]

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never messed with one of those sites but that isn't necessary to evaluate your situation. Firstly, you owe none of these girls anything and are a fool if you think they don't have nine other dates lined up too. Therefore, you must choose the one (1st at this point) that you like most and take it at whatever pace they are comfortable with. All the while, you need to be getting into the panties of girl #3 (and possibly 2) but just make sure you wrap it up, because if she is as hot as you say lotsa guys have been trying to get her, with most succeeding. There are more Will's out there than you know, and they all have aids, and since I am sure you don't want to one day explain to girl #1 why she now has aids, you need to be careful why you are whoring yourself out to girl's 2 & 3.

Man, it is called dating... not marrying for a reason. Go out with as many as you can, if and until you make a more exclusive commitment to one of them.

[apatteopipt]

Skipping to the point, I went out with the first girl, we had an awesome time and both seem to really like each other, and are already planning on going out again next week. The second girl however has been texting me saying she's excited for her date, yet now I'm having second thoughts but don't want to cancel on her and crush her poor little heart (yes that sounded pretty gay but you get my point). What would you guys do here, I need some wise words as I'm at a loss.

If you used a dating website to meet, odds are fairly good the women will also date other people, and expect that you are as well. So go on the date, have fun, ect ect. Maybe you'll get along better with her than the first girl, maybe not. Canceling without even going on a date seems like more of a **** thing to do at this point. She already invested some amount of time talking to you after agreeing and freeing up the time and getting ready for the date. At worst, you have a fun date and that is all. Though, maybe she's crazy and thinks a date set-up via email is the next thing to an engagement ring, and then you're screwed either way.

Telling them you're actively dating another/multiple people is a tricky thing in my experience, on the one hand, it is a bit (extremely) creepy to be told on a first date that he's dating others at the same time. On the other, you shouldn't wait till they find out on their own, cause I'm pretty sure that's how the 'when it rains, it pours, and then I get struck by lightning' saying came about.

[searkibia]

Well, one date seems a bit early to be exclusive, or so I would think.
I assume you're being honest with each girl, that they are aware, as they should be using a dating site, that you are also meeting other women?
Some have different opinions, but to me, the first dates are to establish whether both parties want to take it further. On first , second, etc, dates both parties are trying to impress - it's the later ones when the true self comes out.

[StampNews]

I think the rule is only after you had sex you need start thinking if it is a serious committment or just something casual.

[Zwnkkvle]

What you're meant to do is send me your extra dates! [cursing]

Everyone has told me how I should try online dating, as they all say it's so easy to hook up... lol like I haven't tried. My hit rate is like one girl in 50. Then getting one on a date is another thing.

Stupid girls, beggers can't be choosers.[thumbdown]

[ProomoSam]

It is generally considered inappropriate to sodomise your date without warning. Not relavent but I feel it's important.

[Skete]

It is generally considered inappropriate to sodomise your date without warning. Not relavent but I feel it's important.

also, it's not rape, it's surprise sex.

[SoorgoBardy]

Sod the Etiquette, just easier to get the sex over with first, ask her. :P

[Loxaeed]

No harm in dating multiple girls straight off imo, if/when you get a few dates down the line with one of them and it's clearly going somewhere that's when you stop it.

[StizePypemype]

Dude, I say line em up and knock them down!

As everyone has already said, if you think you're the only one weighing up your options and going out on multiple dates set-up via that site then you've got moss growing in your head.

It's generally a pre-requisite in the dating scene (especially the online scene) that everyone is pretty much playing the field until they can settle with someone, and even then it's hard to tie anyone down because it's human nature to see if the grass is greener on the other side.

Don't let the conditions of your previous (and significantly longer term) relationship influence how you choose to connect with these new women, because you will only cling on too tight too early and will probably get your own heart broken instead.

[indianstory]

It is generally considered inappropriate to sodomise your date without warning. Not relavent but I feel it's important.

Chicks like it when you wake them up with a moustache ride.

What you're meant to do is send me your extra dates! [cursing]

Everyone has told me how I should try online dating, as they all say it's so easy to hook up... lol like I haven't tried. My hit rate is like one girl in 50. Then getting one on a date is another thing.

Stupid girls, beggers can't be choosers.[thumbdown]

Step 1 - Get to the gym...

[Zwnkkvle]

Step 1 - Get to the gym...

I go to the gym 5 days a week...

[Usesdiums]

One of my female friends is big on dating sites. She went on 14 dates in a 21 day period. I think you'll be fine.

[Xzmwskxn]

Lmfao! God I love this forum, mad onions ftw.

Guys and girls thanks for the advice, I'm really appreciative that everyone is mostly on the same page. I'll give a little update to the situation-

So after date #1 went well, we setup a second date for this week. I really liked her and I'm glad I get another chance to see how it goes.

Well, girl #2 kept texting, she seemed excited for our date so we ended up bumping it up and going out on Saturday night. We also had a pretty good time although I'd say overall I was less interested in her than she was in me and more interested in girl 1 (who seems to have a bit more mystery to her). Regardless though, I had fun, so girl #2 and I are going out again this week for more of a formal date since we just ended up drinking and talking at the bar till 2am.

So now I've got the two dates next week and a third AND a fourth girl who are both very interested in one . I think I'll probably stick to the advice and just take it as it comes and when I feel settled in then let the other brizzles know whats up. My online profile already explains that I got off a big relationship, so the girls know where I'm at, and girl #2 knows I've gone out with girl #1 (like you guys said, everyone's in the same boat on a dating site). Right now I'm just enjoying getting to go on those first nervous, exciting dates again that I had so many years back. I don't know if others agree, but I know for me the first year or two of a relationship is a blast, you get to have so much fun getting to know the other person and taking it to the next level every week.

For those of you thinking of trying those sites, I guess at this point so far I'd have to recommend it. I have a friend who had been doing it for over a year, and he's had little success (although plenty of dates), but I think part of it was that he didn't put up the greatest profile pictures and he takes things way too seriously. I'm a laid back guy and I like good conversation and laughter. If you are argumentative I think that hurts your chances quite a bit. It also helps to have a big relationship under your belt because I know how to talk to women and have lived with one so I can bank on those experiences.

Now there's just that question of if I can squeeze in girls #3 and 4 without overlap. . . (hopefully girl #1 will just stand out by the end of the week)

[RicyReetred]

Good good, now get them all together to have a foursome

[zlopikanikanza]

No harm in dating multiple girls straight off imo, if/when you get a few dates down the line with one of them and it's clearly going somewhere that's when you stop it.

^- Ding.

Thats what I usually do. Until your feet start to feel firmly planted with one, whip it out and get it wet with a few of them.

[siflversonemunk]

^- Ding.

Thats what I usually do. Until your feet start to feel firmly planted with one, whip it out and get it wet with a few of them.

That is because you guys are faggots.

The best way to approach relationships is to cheat. That way when you find out that she has be ****ing her boss, you can tell her what you did to her mother, sister, cat, friends and co-workers.

****ing bitches.

[Xzmwskxn]

lol, ok this post was great until those last 3. I guess I value a little more out of an actual relationship and just don't "whip it out and get it wet" with whoever. But again, glad to see a lot of legitimately helpful comments from teh mad onions