[GAGNAPPEAPH]

Well after a year long and rough divorce.i finally sighned my divorce paper 2 hours ago.happy and sad at the sametime..i have 2 boys,10-13.it is the hardest on them,thats what hurts.anyways now i have to pay 3k a month in child support and i have joint custody..

[Rnlvifov]

So you both have the children an equal amount of time, but only you pay her for support? How is that fair?

[soajerwaradaY]

3k a month? Thats insane!

[HomePageOEMfreeSOFTWARE]

Yeah, joint custody and still 3k a month child support??

And no alimony??

Eithor way, that's one long, expensive ride.

[Kthzltje]

My parents split up when I was 9 and honestly, I didnt even give a crap, I knew they were not together anymore but I also knew I would see both of them , really wasnt that big a deal for me. At that age I think I was more concerned with BB guns and mag wheels for my bike. 3 grand a month is brutal dude, wtf?

[ORDERCHEAPVIAGRASOFTWARE]

3k a month? That is messed up man. Here it is usually $500/mo. But it can also be based on income, so maybe you make millions? Maybe even billions?


Anyways, that sucks for the kids. I was 9 or 10 when my parents divorced and it sucked balls.
A couple things that bugged me as a kid that you may want to watch out for.

1.) If you get a girlfriend, keep your kids first. When my dad got one, I rarely went over to his house as often cause they were "hanging out."

2.) Don't do a "suprise, we are getting married" bs.

3.) Don't use your kids to talk to your ex-wife for you. My mom did this to me all the time. "Tell your dad, blah blah blah for me." I got to the point where I had to tell her to shut up and act like a grown up and talk to him herself.
Yet, when they are forced to be around, weddings and the like, she tries to act tough and act like he is the one that has the beef.


Those are just 3 major things that I did not like as a child going through a divorce myself.

[Guaranano]

That's what you get for being born with a penis. My friend is going through a divorce. His wife has 3 kids, 2 of them are his, the other was with some loser who pays no child support.

When they figured up his child support they hit him with 3 kids, rather than 2. So yeah.. he's paying for a kid that's not even his.

Plus the wife said he never sees his kids so they took that into account, even though he has his kids quite often since she ditches them off every time she wants to go out. She blew all the money on manicures and crap and had the balls to hit him up for money so she could fill her gas tank to go see some dude.

I feel for ya man. The courts are never fair to men. Kids need a father in their life.

1.) If you get a girlfriend, keep your kids first. When my dad got one, I rarely went over to his house as often cause they were "hanging out." Also that. I'm a ******* child, used to hang out with my mom when she was actually home (3rd shift factor). At 12 she dated some dude, forgot I existed, and while we were staying at his place on a school night (1 hour drive) my grandfather (my only father figure) died and we didn't even go back that night. You can **** a kid up big time by replacing them like that. I went from straight A's to D's over night. Never did quite recover.

2.) Don't do a "suprise, we are getting married" bs. My wife's dad pulled that stunt, with a twist. They didn't find out until a year later that the girlfriend they all hated was their step mother. And they found out because she got smashed, popped pills, and asked the youngest child if she wanted to know a secret.

So yeah, there's examples on what NOT to do as a parent. :P But I'm sure you know what to do with kids, more experience than me for sure. Best of luck man. I've seen so many screwed up relationships, the legal side of things, and the kids get screwed. But all the pro's say it's best to just get divorced than stay together for the kids' sake.

[anolbom]

Don't use your kids to talk to your ex-wife for you. My mom did this to me all the time. "Tell your dad, blah blah blah for me." I got to the point where I had to tell her to shut up and act like a grown up and talk to him herself.

I agree with this fully.

[www.forumsovetov.ru]

3k a month? That is messed up man. Here it is usually $500/mo. But it can also be based on income, so maybe you make millions? Maybe even billions?


Anyways, that sucks for the kids. I was 9 or 10 when my parents divorced and it sucked balls.
A couple things that bugged me as a kid that you may want to watch out for.

1.) If you get a girlfriend, keep your kids first. When my dad got one, I rarely went over to his house as often cause they were "hanging out."

2.) Don't do a "suprise, we are getting married" bs.

3.) Don't use your kids to talk to your ex-wife for you. My mom did this to me all the time. "Tell your dad, blah blah blah for me." I got to the point where I had to tell her to shut up and act like a grown up and talk to him herself.
Yet, when they are forced to be around, weddings and the like, she tries to act tough and act like he is the one that has the beef.


Those are just 3 major things that I did not like as a child going through a divorce myself.

My parents are not divorced but this sounds like some good solid advice to follow.

[PIORARMADDERI]

Your kids are making more than I am...

[gorbasevhuynani]

Well after a year long and rough divorce.i finally sighned my divorce paper 2 hours ago.happy and sad at the sametime..i have 2 boys,10-13.it is the hardest on them,thats what hurts.anyways now i have to pay 3k a month in child support and i have joint custody..

3k a month? WTF is she doing? Thats enough money to live comfortably without working at all for a single person. In fact, my mom used to support myself and my 2 sisters on less than that per month sometimes. All on her own!

I know school and crap is expensive, but does she not have a job? Child Support is supposed to be to support the CHILD. Not the damned woman and her house.

[gorbasevhuynani]

Here, this will make you feel better.....I hope.
http://www.dumpert.nl/mediabase/9166...n_the_man.html

[nancywind]

3k a month? WTF is she doing? Thats enough money to live comfortably without working at all for a single person. In fact, my mom used to support myself and my 2 sisters on less than that per month sometimes. All on her own!

I know school and crap is expensive, but does she not have a job? Child Support is supposed to be to support the CHILD. Not the damned woman and her house.

My one ex was divorced, she had a kid too. She was getting child support, but it was not always on time. Her ex husband was in college, and she was unforgiving, even though he was trying to improve things overall. She would not allow him to see the kid until he paid everything too. Keep in mind, he always did, it was just a month or two behind. She made plenty of money on her own, and I don't see how she spent the money on her son. She used to just blow through money shopping and stuff, buying other random ****, and then would complain about not getting the child support. It's an f'ed up system. This was also a red flag to break up. God forbid I got her pregnant, I'd be typing on a K6 right now.

[astefecyAvevy]

Well after a year long and rough divorce.i finally sighned my divorce paper 2 hours ago.happy and sad at the sametime..i have 2 boys,10-13.it is the hardest on them,thats what hurts.anyways now i have to pay 3k a month in child support and i have joint custody..

3k a month? I can pay my entire mortgage and still have over $500 left for a car payment with that.

[nancywind]

Here, this will make you feel better.....I hope.
http://www.dumpert.nl/mediabase/9166...n_the_man.html

That cracked me up. Very nice. Rush, load up a game, shoot some ****. [thumbup]

[TeemFilla]

The way you cancel this out is by hooking up with some young hot tantalizing lady with all the juice, up stairs ass down stairs....

That is collecting the same amount from her previous marriage. Hums theme song to the Brady Bunch.

3k!?? that will be hard to follow though. [shocked][surrender]

[Maydayvar]

That's what you get for being born with a penis. My friend is going through a divorce. His wife has 3 kids, 2 of them are his, the other was with some loser who pays no child support.

When they figured up his child support they hit him with 3 kids, rather than 2. So yeah.. he's paying for a kid that's not even his.

Plus the wife said he never sees his kids so they took that into account, even though he has his kids quite often since she ditches them off every time she wants to go out. She blew all the money on manicures and crap and had the balls to hit him up for money so she could fill her gas tank to go see some dude.

I feel for ya man. The courts are never fair to men. Kids need a father in their life..

WTF 3K a month is ridiculous...The average person earns maybe 1000 a week if they are lucky...With 4 weeks in almost every month how the hell is he meant to survive...

As for the case with your mate RainWind that Woman is a B**ch with a Capital B....

My partner's uncle got divorced a while ago and the woman took everything...He pays Child Support but Can't even see the kid who was his life.....He spent his life working his @ss to the bone (Brought a house, a Car etc) and she made him sell all of it to pay for the divorce and everything else....and took it all because she got sole custody of the kid

He was forced to rent...and is to old now to earn it all back and to top it off the kid won't want to see him as the mother has been telling the boy that his father is no good and filling his head with lies...its women like these that are fu*king up our court system by lieing their @sses off to make good hard working fathers suffer..all because they want too..Mind you there are also a lot of drop kick dads (mums too) that ruin things for the rest of us to...

I will agree that the courts tend to favor women when it comes to custody but I think that is because in the old days Women were the main care givers to the children while the men went and earned the bulk of the income...but I suppose as women are now stepping up to the mans role the courts should also get with the times...not saying all women are bad people but just like men there are a few out there that give the female sex a bad name

[Kotyara]

WTF 3K a month is ridiculous...The average person earns maybe 1000 a week if they are lucky...With 4 weeks in almost every month how the hell is he meant to survive...

The median salary in the US is about US$40,000.

[NKUDirectory]

I would pay a billion pounds a month just to makesure my kids are seen right by me !

equal share or not its your children and its not about the money.... [rolleyes]

Rush that's not a dig at you seeing as you didn't "complain" about it in your first post so my gripe isn't with you

[NADALA]

Not sure how it works over there, but here the CSA can take 1/4 of your salary.. (was 1/3 when they were tearing the arse out of me). So I guess rush44 has a pretty good job