[ådrrraj]

This is completly bizarre, and you guys will get a kick out of it at my expense

I had been seing a girl for a few weeks over a month ago (she is 25, I'm 28), nothing physical as she wanted to take it slow, just the usual early dating stuff. She sent me over 200 emails and 100 text messages, kinda over the top, but I thought hell why not go with it. I saw her probably only 6 times, the second last time she dropped by to give me her old mobile phone as mine simply couldn't hold a charge for the hour or so our conversations lasted. Seems like she likes me alot eh? Next time and last time I see her was when she invited me to meet her workmates at the pub, she got drunk and told me how much she looked forward to seeing me, said her friends liked me blah blah blah. Obviously I was thinking things are going well, I can't wait till she gets back from visiting her mum (she was going away for a week).

Well damn, did it all got to **** after that. We talked like usual while she was away, but something was up. On her return she didn't see me, and the next day told me via email it wouldn't work. She liked me but it was distracting her from her chartered accountant degree given that we couldn't see each other as much as she wanted, so she thought it best to break up. Naturally I was stunned, how could she like me and break up?

Fast forward to today, the police phoned and said I need to come down to the station tomorrow to sign a restraining order [shocked]
I've contacted her 4 times asking if we could simply meet up and talk, on all occasions she had said no. The second last she threatened a restraining order, I thought she was bluffing and waited 2 weeks before phoning again. Mistake.

Now I don't know what the deal is with these things, what's the deal? Do I need to go to court? or is this just a declaration I sign. I never threatened her, hell I was too nice to be honest.
She is just a complete wacko, I know that now but it's too late

I still can't believe it, apart from the obvious advice of keeping clear (which I will do, hell I can't get far enough away now), anyone actually know what my rights are? I know the laws are different, but Australian law is based of the UK system usually.

[SHUSIATULSE]

OMGZSTALKEROFL!

[ådrrraj]

Hell reading it I still can't beleive it.

I could understand if I actually got of my arse and followed her, but I hadn't seen her since the night she went away, and she was the one who invited me.

[Lidawka]

Don't worry mate, your first few restraining orders hurt a bit but you will get used to it...

Now I collect them like pogs.

[flowersnewacq]

How did you try and contact her that 4 times?

[beckercpa]

Option 1

Option 2

Seriously though, that sucks. Feel for ya.

[ådrrraj]

How did you try and contact her that 4 times?

1st was a letter on her doorstep (I just left it, I didn't knock), just saying that I liked her and felt it was a mistake to throw away a good friendship. I left a bottle of red she liked, originally she had agreed to take it only on the proviso that I let her cook dinner for me and I bring the wine (invitation via email 2 weeks beforehand, it was to be the following night). I also left her phone and charger that she gave me. Next was email, other two where phone.

[ValdisSeroff]

I blame the mother. Her mother probably talked a load of crap saying she should be concentrating on her degree instead of making boyfriends etc... and a lot of girls tend to actually take their mother's advice seriously.

[tarmpriopay]

She sounds like a total bunny-boiler! [shocked]

1st was a letter on her doorstep (I just left it, I didn't knock), just saying that I liked her and felt it was a mistake to throw away a good friendship. I left a bottle of red she liked, originally she had agreed to take it only on the proviso that I let her cook dinner for me and I bring the wine (invitation via email 2 weeks beforehand, it was to be the following night). I also left her phone and charger that she gave me. Next was email, other two where phone. But that is a bit stalkerish to be honest though!

[fedelwet]

Woman love em or hate em, you can definately live without em'

[VardyCodarexyz]

Don't worry mate, your first few restraining orders hurt a bit but you will get used to it...

Now I collect them like pogs.

haha!...

[ådrrraj]

She sounds like a total bunny-boiler! [shocked]



But that is a bit stalkerish to be honest though!

True, I wanted to give her phone back, give her the bottle of wine, and tell her how I felt. She is into that whole romantic scene, so I figured she might appreciate a hand written letter. Probably a mistake [rofl]

[Amoniustauns]

1st was a letter on her doorstep (I just left it, I didn't knock), just saying that I liked her and felt it was a mistake to throw away a good friendship. I left a bottle of red she liked, originally she had agreed to take it only on the proviso that I let her cook dinner for me and I bring the wine (invitation via email 2 weeks beforehand, it was to be the following night). I also left her phone and charger that she gave me. Next was email, other two where phone.

Returning a phone, supplying a bottle of wine, at your expense as a goodwill gesture = Not stalking.

She has no grounds for a restraining order, and also you have to be "served" a restraining order, the restraining order is a civil document which has to be signed by a judge, the police have nothing to do with it unless you break the restrining order.

Something is not ringing true here.....

[ådrrraj]

Returning a phone, supplying a bottle of wine, at your expense as a goodwill gesture = Not stalking.

She has no grounds for a restraining order, and also you have to be "served" a restraining order, the restraining order is a civil document which has to be signed by a judge, the police have nothing to do with it unless you break the restrining order.

Something is not ringing true here.....

That's what I thought, the info I can find says the same, but yet the police want me to go down to the station? I was at work when they called, so naturally I didn't want a long conversation and didn't ask questions. I sincerely hope it's a wind up from my mates, but unfortunatly I don't think it is.

[syptopsygieds]

Woman love em or hate em, you can definately live without em'

or dont have sex with them

[TolleyBoymn]

Hmm well, just tell them you are not going to sign that restraining order?

[ådrrraj]

Hmm well, just tell them you are not going to sign that restraining order?

I won't without legal advice, I won't until I know exactly what I'm signing. If it's as easy as filling out a form I might take one out on her [thumbup]

[TolleyBoymn]

I won't without legal advice, I won't until I know exactly what I'm signing. If it's as easy as filling out a form I might take one out on her [thumbup]

Yea that girl is definately nuts, just talk to the cops and lawyer.

[ThomasMannfanny]

Im from the US but from the situations Ive been in before I completely recommend talking to a lawyer or hiring one first. Don't answer any questions from the police or anything until you have a lawyer. That sounds really suspicious that the police would just call you and ask you to come down to sign it. Especially since she is a girl you dont want this whole thing to get twisted into some rape story she makes up or worse.

[giturbewan]

So you didnt realise that what she was infact trying to tell you is that she had some **** whilst she was away and no longer wants anything to do with you.

yet you kept phoning her and didnt take heed even after she threatened you with a restraining order ?

when women get like that you just drop them. and leave well alone.

hmmm thats a little harse im sorry.

I take the comment back but you should have left well alone after she said that